Martial Arts, More Than Just Self Defense

ByTanya Glover
Tanya Glover

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I am the type of mom who really likes to have her children involved in whatever they can be involved in. As a child, I wanted so much to take dance or gymnastics but the opportunity never afforded itself to me. I think this is why I try to keep my son involved in extracurricular activities so much. Do not mistake me for a stage parent or soccer mom though. Whatever activity my son does he does on his own accord and he enjoys it more than I do! I love to watch anything he is involved in but if he finds no joy in it than we move on. When he turned 4 we tried Tee Ball. He seemed to like to alright for the first week but by the time the season was over (it only lasts 2 months for kids his age) he told me he did not like playing. When fall came we signed up for soccer and for 2 months he enjoyed running around with the other kids but never really gained any momentum as a player. (Yes I know he is only 4!) He said he would like to play again next year but in the meantime I had to find something else for him to be involved in! I gave him the choice between gymnastics and martial arts. Of course he went with the later and I was stuck allowing it. I kept saying to myself “I cannot believe I am letting my son go to a class that will teach him how to fight!” I took him to his first Kobushi-Do class, a form of martial arts that is heavy on the teachings of karate during the formative years of the lessons (ages 3 to 6). I took him to this very first class and I was very happy to find that the things I was picturing were not reality!
I do not know what I expected; maybe that I would walk in the Dojo to find people smacking each other and doing karate chops all over the place? I really was not sure what to expect but it was not what I found! So, for all of you parents out there have kids who would like to take martial arts classes but are apprehensive to allow them too, read on so that maybe I can help to ease your nerves.
Our first night at Kobushi-Do class, the Sensei, also known as Shihan, spoke with the parents and the children about what to expect from the classes. He gave us a list of rules and the class format sheet so everyone would know what to expect each time they came. (Jon goes twice per week). Here is what a child’s Kobushi-Do class looks like:
  • Bow in
  • Warm up and 1st game time
  • Special training
  • Rolling
  • Grab escapes
  • Balance and time training
  • 2nd game time
Though it looks pretty simple, there is so much more going on than what you see in those words. The first thing on the list is the bow in. This was the first thing the children learned. They line up in front of Sensei and wait for him to say “Ray”, which means bow, and the children bow back and say “Kobushi-Do”. Now the class can begin. They begin by doing a few laps around the mat and some warm up exercises. Game time can be anything that helps them learn balance or technique. Sometimes it is dodge ball and sometime it is limbo. Sensei has several games for them to play.
Special training really is special. Each week it is something different but it always begins with the Magic Words of Wisdom. There are 18 words/phrases that the children must remember.
  • Say “yes/no ma’am/sir” to adults
  • Always say thank you and your welcome
  • Always say please when you ask for something
  • Always remember to say excuse me or pardon me
  • Say you are sorry  when you make a mistake or hurt someone
  • Never lie to parents or teachers
  • Never steal
  • Treat your parents and teachers with respect
  • Do not argue with your brothers or sisters
  • Do not talk to or respond to strangers
  • Always tell your parents if someone is touching or talking to you in a way that makes you feel funny
  • Make sure to clean up after yourself at home and at school
  • Always keep your promises
  • Share your toys
  • Do not treat others meanly
  • Never be a bully
  • It is better to forgive than to stay angry
These are some fantastic rules to live by! Even though our children have heard them all from us, when it comes from their martial arts teacher it somehow hits home harder. (My son is now the captain of our homes polite police!)
The special training varies from class to class. Last week the children watched a movie called Stranger Beware. This video talked about stranger danger and how to defend yourself against someone who is trying to take you. I was very impressed with the whole thing and amazingly enough, my four year old can recite every rule and defensive move to me about dealing with strangers! That makes a mom feel really good! Next week they will focus on bullying. This is so important with how much things have changed in schools since I was a child. Knowing that my son will be able to stand up to bullies and defend himself also makes me feel good.
So overall, martial arts have been an excellent way for my little boy to get out his energy, get creative and really learn some important life lessons. The main thing you need to do to prepare your child to learn self defense skills is that they are only to be used for self defense. We had to have a serious talk with my son before the classes began. I feel confident that what we said hit home and that he understands. His skills are improving, along with his self-esteem, and I feel good about having him involved in something so special! Maybe you will find out that your child can benefit from this activity as well!
 

 

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Posted on 2/21/2012 3:57:00 PM by Tanya Glover

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The Importance of Sleep

By Tanya Glover
Tanya Glover

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Whether you realize it or not, sleep plays a very large role in our lives. In fact, at least 1/3 of our entire life is spent sleeping! When we are children we hate to do it and as adults we cannot get enough of it, but either way you look at it, sleep is something we must have. You may be surprised to learn what sleep does for our bodies and what the effects of not getting enough it can be.

The Importance of Sleep for Children                                                                                                           

Children burn a lot of energy during the daytime hours. Their only real resting period (and yours!) is during slumber. It is recommended that school aged children should get between 10 and 12 hours of sleep each night to get the maximum benefits that sleep provides. But why is it so important to get enough sleep? What does it do?
·        When you child is young, their brains are in developmental overload. Sleep helps to restore the brains functions in order for your child to be able to learn each day. It also gives their brains a rest from the flurry of activity it processes throughout the daytime hours.
·        When a child does not get enough sleep it can lead to obesity. Sleep helps to keep hormones balanced and when you are not getting enough, these hormones have a harder time balancing out and in turn they do not properly regulate feelings of hunger. This can lead to overeating which is a major childhood issue right now.
·        Lack of sleep in childhood has also been associated with ADHD and behavioral problems. When a child’s brain is not well rested they tend to act ways they are not even consciously aware of.
·        For a child that stays overly tired, snoring can occur, even at very young ages. When infants snore it can delay their overall development.
·        If your child experiences night terrors, you may want to evaluate the amount of sleep they are getting. Night terrors are made worse when a child is deprived of the proper amount of sleep.
·        Lack of sleep can cause memory problems. This is because memory consolidation happens when you are asleep. When we do not get enough sleep this consolidation cannot occur and this can lead to short and long term memory loss.
·        During the REM period of sleep, your child unlearns certain things. This is very important! Think of it like this. Your child has just learned how to ride a bike. The first 20 times that they tired, they fell off. However, the 21st time they mastered it! When they sleep they dump out the superfluous memories and keep the important learned lessons. This means that when the go to get on their bike they automatically do what they did on the 21st time, having unlearned how to fall off the bike! Sleep deprivation can make it to where these types of things are not unlearned and new skills may begin to slip away, only to have to be relearned all over again.
·        Children who get enough sleep tend to perform better in all areas of their lives. Plus, having a child who gets enough sleep also gives you the chance to get the amount of sleep you need! It is a win-win situation!

The Importance of Sleep in Adults

Sleep is not just important for children. As adults, we still need enough sleep to function right and stay healthy. It is recommended that adults get at least 8 hours of sleep per night.  Below you will find the top reasons why sleep plays an important part in our lives as well!
  • Becoming sleep deprived can be very dangerous. It effects hand-eye coordination which is needed to do many tasks each day. Take driving for example. This requires good reaction time and attention span. When someone who has not had enough sleep gets behind the wheel it is as bad as if they are intoxicated. And speaking of intoxication, those who are not getting enough sleep and who drink get affected more quickly by the alcohol which can make for some dangerous situations.
  • As we get older our memory begins to falter a bit. This is a natural part of aging but it is magnified 100% when you do not sleep enough.
  • Adults who do not get enough sleep are moodier during the day and have a hard time concentrating at the tasks the need to accomplish. This can lead to damage of relationship and job loss.
  • Studies have shown that adults who do not get the proper amount of sleep have a lower immune system. This is because the body is not being given enough time to rest and restore itself before being slung back into motion.
  • Studies have also shown that adults who do not sleep enough are more likely to have irregular heartbeats, high blood pressure and increased levels of stress.
  • Finally and maybe most importantly, getting enough sleep at night has been tied to helping people avoid cancer or fighting it off if it has already been diagnosed. Of course getting your rest will not cure cancer or stop it if it is going to infect you, but every little thing helps when it comes to this horrible illness so why not at least take it into consideration and get more sleep just in case?

Go to Bed! Why? Because I Said So!

No matter how young or old you are, it is a proven fact that your overall wellbeing and health is effected by how much sleep you get at night. Millions of people suffer from sleep deprivation. Some people do not get enough sleep because of stress in their lives or other things that keep them awake and worrying. For some it is due to insomnia, which is a curable disorder. Others just shirk sleep because they have so much to do (like me for instance!) No matter what the reason, the bottom line is that sleep is essential for keeping us happy and healthy. So, even though it may be difficult to get into the habit of going to bed earlier, it is something that your body will thank you for in a million and one ways! Now it is time for me to get some rest, so good night everyone!

 

 

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Posted on 2/7/2012 1:44:00 PM by Tanya Glover

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