For me this work is sacred and deeply satisfying. I am honoured and humbled to work with every person who chooses me to accompany them for a portion of their journey through life. My work is guided by the following key principles:
- All human beings possess a natural tendency toward growth and healing and this tendency is strengthened when supported and nurtured.
- As social beings we develop who we are in relationship with others; it is also in relationship with a warm, caring other that we learn to heal past wounds.
- Counselling/psychotherapy is a collaborative process in which the client is in the driver’s seat, directing the process according to their own goals and needs
- Cultural factors (such as race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, etc.) can be just as important as individual ones, in understanding who we are and what we need to grow and heal
- We are all so much more than the worst thing we have ever done
I have been fortunate to work with a broad range of issues and clients in a variety of settings, including schools, community clinics and private practice. I have worked with children and families; adult men and women dealing with depression, anxiety, grief, eating disorders, relationship issues; women and children who have experienced violence and assault; couples dealing with relationship and fertility issues. I am also experienced in helping people to cope with emotional issues related to immigration and resettlement, parenting challenges, racism and discrimination, and I work from an LGBT*Q positive framework.
My approach is relational and integrative. This means that I first focus on building a warm, trusting, collaborative relationship with you and then I use a variety of techniques depending on what issues you want to work on and what works best for you. My influences include multicultural counselling theory, feminist therapy, person centred and experiential approaches such as existential and emotion focused therapies, psychodynamic approaches, as well as mindfulness based practices.
Based on what I know in my heart and what the psychological literature demonstrates, it is the quality of the relationship between client and therapist that is the best predictor of a successful outcome. This is why I work hard to build a relationship that is warm and trusting, and in which you feel valued. This is the foundation of our work together. It is also the basis on which you must decide whether or not I am a good fit for you.
My approach also takes into account that we are all individuals within larger systems such as families, societies, cultures and nations and these can have powerful influences on our psychological development and worldview. When I work with you I embark on a journey of discovery. I make no assumptions. I am open to all of the complex, layered and amazing ways that you have come to be who you are.
Benefits of therapy
When we work together in therapy, you may experience one or more of the following benefits:
- Increased self-confidence
- Increased sense of purpose, value and self worth
- More satisfying, balanced relationships
- Elimination or decrease in self-destructive behaviours
- Decrease in stress due to improved capacity (strategies & tools) to manage life’s challenges
- Increased sense of compassion for self and others
- More positive, optimistic and hopeful attitude towards life and the future
On a personal note...
I was born in Trinidad and Tobago, where I grew up and where the majority of my extended family still lives. I have been living in Canada for more than half of my life and I have come to regard it as a second home. I am a mother of two and have been in an intimate partnership for almost 20 years. I am a lover of people and I look forward to connecting with you.
Carla Ribeiro ReachesYork ON