Clients who consult with me regarding their anger and their difficulty in controlling their impulses. experience my interest and support in helping them to both understand how their anger came to be so big as well as to help them to repair the relationships that have been hurt by their anger. They are helped to understand that their anger is frequently a response to their experience of loss of some kind and that these losses can be defined and understood. Such losses range from loss of opportunity, to loss of money, to loss of a relationship. to loss of self-esteem.