Anger Management and Counselling in Belleville, ON.

My approach to anger management first teaches clients to become expert observers of themselves their triggers, risks and "buttons". Once this is done, strategies are developed to mitigate risk and experiment with alternate, healthy forms of expressing rage. Anger can be profoundly healing and revealing, as well as destructive. Sometimes deeper reprocessing work is necessary if the source of anger is extreme or rooted in early life, or marked by great suffering, humiliation, disgust or injustice. If impulse control is a concern, practical safety agreements in addition to DBT and affect regulation strategies can be imparted. Couples can learn ways to allow safe and healthy anger expression

I believe that often times anger is a manifestation of unprocessed or repressed painful emotions. As such, I approach anger in a patient, respectful and inquisitive manner, allowing clients to access parts of themselves that they have disconnected from. I believe that when the emotions underlying anger can be brought to light and processed, then alternative ways of expressing those emotions can be explored. Contact me to book a free consultation.

Emotions serve a very important purpose, they help guide us, but all too often they get ignored, pushed aside, or asked to take a back seat. I believe it is important to have a space where our emotions can be understood, explored, and validated. Anger is often the result of emotions that have been denied, misunderstood, and shut down. My approach to emotion regulation and anger management is to help build our understanding of what these emotions are trying to tell us, learn to use this information in valuable beneficial ways, and build on resilience and coping strategies to assist in improving interpersonal relationships.

Anger is the most common coping mechanism that is often misunderstood. Suppressing or avoiding anxiety inevitably leads to being overwhelmed and sometimes emotionally exploding. Instead of suppressing anger, a person should learn how to embrace it, be curious about it, feel it, understand it, and eventually channel it in a healthy and constructive manner. Anger comes from a sense of being misunderstood, ignored or left unsupported and the therapy should acknowledge and explore these areas. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

It can be difficult to control our emotions, especially in these challenging times. Anger can also be an expression of other emotions that are lying beneath the surface. Psychotherapy can help identify tools that work for you in learning to regulate your emotions, as well as approaching your anger with preventative strategies such as learning to recognize when you begin to feel angry, and regular activities that can help alleviate stress and build up your stress tolerance. You are not defined by your anger, and your anger doesn't control you. By learning to identify your triggers and the purpose your anger serves for you, therapy can help you make a shift bring more peace into your life.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.