Anger Management and Counseling in Fort Lauderdale, FL.

Anger is an emotion. And anger is usually the result of emotions building up inside. One of the traits that I bring to therapy related to anger management is being able to process how anger comes into any situation my clients are dealing with. In taking the time to identify how anger manages to invade my client's life we can work towards ways of preventing it from stopping the ability to live a fulfilling - and complete - life.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Many times anger is the only acceptable emotion, especially for men. Uncovering the feelings, emotions and frustrations that are behind that anger can completely change the dynamic. Let's work to understand what that anger is about and heal it. Decreasing anger can completely change your relationships and increase a sense of calmness and peace in your life. It is never too late to have a happy life.

We help our clients to have greater understanding of themselves and their interactions with others to improve the quality of their relationships. We utilize mindfulness, self-exploration, and self-soothing techniques to help improve clients' emotional regulation skills. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR or ART, Trauma-Focused CBT, and Existential Therapy are especially helpful for healing trauma and improving interpersonal interactions with others.

Clients will gain an understanding of the root cause of their anger and how it affects their lives and their relationships. The counseling process will pull on the clients' strengths to deal with their anger triggers and mechanisms. Counseling will help the clients to recognize their thinking patterns and behaviors linked to their anger, while empowering them to change them in order to be free from their anger.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Anger and rage are strong emotions! Together we will discover their roots and discuss tools that will help you get back in control. Our society teaches us very impactful messages about anger. Girls are not encouraged to have it so they cry. Boys who are sad are criticized when they cry and are taught anger is acceptable. We either implode or explode. If you are struggling with overwhelming anger or rage or unable to get angry reach out today. Together we will explore this powerful emotion.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I don’t believe in Anger Management. Instead, I believe in getting rid of anger (Anger Resolution). Most of us learn how and when to be angry as children and continue to react the same way as adults. I work with you to eliminate anger by lowering reactivity and by helping you to explore new, more personally beneficial ways to respond to potentially rageful situations. No matter how angry you are, if you are coming to see me because you (or a loved one) feel that you need help with anger, I can help you. I am certified in Anger Resolution and I use many different techniques to lower your reactivity and help you eliminate rage--and not one of them includes counting to 10!