Anger Management and Counselling in London, ON.

A.M. is mainly a misnomer: “anger” is a natural emotion and normal response to real or imagined injury/threats. It can support our making and keeping essential personal boundaries. Such anger is usually short-lived. Anger that results in impulsive harmful abusive acts and lasts, is better described as rage. Rage stems from severe early life traumas: extensive abandonment, need deprivation, violence, sexual abuse, chronic chaos, likely combined with individual vulnerability factors. Some programs and self-help may not successfully address rage.Depending on degree of self-awareness, motivation, capacity for self-regulation and taking responsibility, this problem can be helped by psychotherapy

It can be difficult to control our emotions, especially in these challenging times. Anger can also be an expression of other emotions that are lying beneath the surface. Psychotherapy can help identify tools that work for you in learning to regulate your emotions, as well as approaching your anger with preventative strategies such as learning to recognize when you begin to feel angry, and regular activities that can help alleviate stress and build up your stress tolerance. You are not defined by your anger, and your anger doesn't control you. By learning to identify your triggers and the purpose your anger serves for you, therapy can help you make a shift bring more peace into your life.

Anger is an essential emotion. It lets us know what is important. Sometimes, the intensity of anger can be upsetting. Anger management is more about anger awareness. Learning how to manage intense feelings is helpful in both family and work environments. By becoming aware of seemingly insignificant triggers, you can avoid an very significant outburst. Counselling can help you transform anger as the enemy to anger as your ally.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is a natural emotion and everyone experiences anger at one point or another. It can become problematic if expressed in an aggressive and irrational manner. I assist my clients by guiding them to regulate their anger and behaviour, gain self-awareness to feel more in control of themselves and their emotions, which in turn lead them to have improved relationships and express their anger in a constructive manner.

While anger management programs are helpful, most never get to the root of the individual's personal issues or triggers. I work with both men and women to realize learned behaviour and personal belief systems that continue to cause problems. I will work with you on your own individual triggers that lead to anger and help you learn how to better identify and change the thoughts and feelings that are leading to the angry behaviour.

There are many reasons why people get angry. Being able to feel angry is normal and healthy. However, how people respond to anger determines if they are being appropriate or not. Through anger management counselling, I can help you understand the source of your anger, how to respond to anger effectively and appropriately, and how to enjoy your life is such a way that your feelings serve to communicate awareness of your environment versus controlling your thoughts and behaviour. Through counselling you can become "in control" versus being controlling. I can help you to resolve conflict effectively and to express yourself assertively versus passively or aggressively.

Have you ever felt like you needed to hold a piece of yourself back, fearing that people won't accept you? Do you feel you can’t be your true and authentic self around others? Are you constantly saying yes to things you want to say no to? Wouldn’t you rather feel like you’re in control? Others are more worried about how you act when you're angry than about why you're angry.

After four decades as a therapist, I find anger management is still not fully understood. Yes you need to manage your anger. But it’s early childhood experience which has hurt you - hardened you to avoid, dismiss or shove inside any anger: both the Constructive as well as Destructive types. That becomes a false shortcut - as feeling inside for which is which in the moment is a key to healthy assertion. Balance is what we need. In the model I use for working with anger, you can learn first to shift what tends to happen in a present unhappy situation. We’ll then help you distinguish how your past started that pattern. You’ll be able to balance yourself, both in anger and conflict resolution.

Anger is a natural emotion for all humans, but we can find ourselves sometimes overwhelmed with more anger than we feel we can handle, where we realize that we are out of balance and cannot seem to control our behaviour. As a therapist, I can support you through this experience, with an approach of compassion and lack of judgment, to understanding the origin of the anger and replacing it with a healthy balance of emotional expression.

Anger is a strong and tough emotion. When used in an unproductive way, anger can harm our inner world and sense of self-esteem (i.e. self-criticism, self-injury), and harm our relationships (i.e. blaming, criticism, aggression, inflexibility). However, when this feeling is used in a healthy way, it can help us by alerting us that boundaries may have been crossed or that we may have some thoughts to challenge. It can also help to motivate us and help us to be assertive. We can work together to get a handle on anger and harness that energy in healthy, helpful ways.

Many of us grew up in families where we were told to rate our emotions as positive or negative. Positive emotions were love, joy, and compassion. Negative emotions were sadness, fear, anger, and rage. Unfortunately, anger got placed in the harmful emotion category for many of us, which is not where it belongs. Anger is a helpful emotion that strengthens our resolve to set healthy limits in our relationships. Anger helps us communicate what we need from others. Psychotherapy is a space where you can learn the positive attributes of anger and how to express it positively and safely. Let's get together and explore some of these healthier options for this vital emotion!

Anger is a normal and important emotion that provides us with clues about emotions, thoughts, experiences, and behaviours that need to be explored and understood. Anger is a secondary emotion which means that there are often softer more vulnerable emotions that lie beneath the experience and expression of anger. In the context of a safe and non-judgemental counselling relationship, you can begin to explore the roots of your anger, understand how your anger has likely acted to protect you in may situations, and learn new strategies and tools to express all emotions, including anger, in a more effective and helpful way.

I have worked in a group setting with men who have power and control issues. I believe in safety in families, and compassion for all. The work starts with taking responsibility for our actions and the effects they have on others. I believe people are capable of change and therapy can be an invitation to growth in responsibility, empathy and behaviour change. I would address the emotional root of the problem and help you understand why anger leads to aggression.

If you experience anger management that is interfering in your work or relationships, I offer a variety of approaches to understand not only the sources of anger, but also tailored strategies to help you to change your reactions and communicate your needs in productive ways. Types of approaches that might be used include Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), other somatic approaches and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy.

In my approach to managing anger and emotional regulation issues, I work with the individual to understand how childhood experiences and unmet needs contribute to the presenting issues. Through this understanding, we can develop new communication methods so you have new tools to address your concerns. I also encourage my clients to develop a strong sense of self-compassion so they can learn to forgive themselves when old patterns emerge, which can then provide guidance on what the person needs in their life.

Many women feel that they are alone in their feelings of anger, or have been socialized to keep anger inside. My counselling practice offers a safe space where these feelings can be explored and understood from a specifically female perspective. I utilize a program, uniquely taylored for women. Most importantly I will to work with you in partnership towards your own personal healing. Please visit my website for more information at www.MSWtherapist.com.

When anger and rage is out of control it is important to reach out for support. I help clients with developing a better understanding of anger in order to regain control. Below the surface of anger often exists other unresolved emotions and experiences that we may need help navigating. As we begin to better understand ourselves and the reasons that anger becomes activated, it is possible to develop the skills and self-awareness necessary to feel more calmness. It is possible to learn how to navigate life’s stressful circumstances without the destructive impacts of unmanaged anger.

Emotions can run deep and overwhelm our system. Anger, in particular, is one what tends to come fast and flood our system. Anger is often learned in our early life and we hold onto the lessons of this. The good news is that we can unburden ourselves from the hurt anger is often holding which can free you from this cycle. If anger is impacting your life, we can help. Contact us and we can work with you to start this change.

Anger typically provides a great deal of energy. Sometimes it can fuel us to stand up and say “no” to unfair treatment. However, it can also translate into aggression that can hurt the ones we love and care about, including ourselves. Therapy can be an opportunity to identify the emotions or reasons underlying the anger so we can better communicate when boundaries have been crossed and needs have not been met. Techniques to soothe oneself, exert energy in a positive way and conflict resolution skills are typical directions for therapy. This may improve your relationships with others and yourself, so you can lead a more contented life.

What do you do when things just do NOT seem fair? Do you go inwards, blaming yourself, or "keep your feelings in" because you do not know what to do, or are scared of saying or doing something? Does your head hurt, do you clench your jaw, or do you feel 'depressed'? Have you found yourself reacting in anger, yelling, screaming, throwing things around, punching walls and even hurting other people, specially your loved ones and then regretting it? Are any of the above behaviours getting you into trouble? Adela can facilitate your anger management. Learn to express how you feel in a constructive, compassionate, non-violent way. Reconstruct your relationships and be trusted again!

Anger is a natural emotion that everyone experiences and should not be viewed as negative but an essential emotion to understand who you are. When anger starts to impact your life negatively it is typically displayed in the way you manage behaviourally and mentally through situations. In therapy, the individual will determine the triggers for the anger, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and record their successes. In essence turning a lion into a kitten.

Transform your relationship with anger and reclaim control over your emotions with our personalized therapy approach. Through a blend of cognitive-behavioral techniques, mindfulness, and tailored strategies, we'll uncover the underlying triggers and patterns fueling your anger. Our unique therapy process empowers you to develop healthier coping mechanisms, enhance communication skills, and restore harmony in your life. Take the first step towards a calmer, more balanced you today.

Events in your life do not cause you to be angry. Anger is your response to those events, and I can help you change your response by changing your thinking! I can help you deal better with underlying stress. I can teach you relaxation methods, and I can teach you the techniques of mindfulness to lessen the hold of difficult thoughts and feelings have on you.

We start by identifying your anger triggers & things you have to be angry about. We identify your anger style, including behaviours you engage in when angry. We identify where anger happens in your body & work to help you start to see clues when your anger is starting to manifest. We help you improve your emotional language and vocabulary. We identify new ways you might react to anger. We will explore together your anger process, including analyzing instances when you were angry, the thoughts you had, the related feelings, & the behaviour you engaged in as a result. We will talk about "anger up, anger down," identifying the things you say to yourself that either increases or decrease anger.