Theressa McMorris, MS, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
526 Oak Street, Syracuse, NY
Anger is an important part of our lives. Unfortunately, most people are not shown how to manage anger. In fact, most people (including our media) encourage explosive anger. Anger can either be destructive or freeing. Our culture promotes explosive anger. It is often labeled as "my rights" or being "assertive". Reality T.V. is one of the greatest purveyers of this myth. Anger is often experienced as being able to be "controlled". That is just not true. It feels true because there isn't much talk about healthy ways of dialogue around why we are angry and choices that offer different outcomes. There are different outcomes. They are life giving and freeing.
Douglas Goldschmidt, LCSWR
Clinical Social Worker
50 Presidential Plaza, LL5, Syracuse, NY
Many people believe that they own their anger, or their anger owns them. Rather than being an emotion that arises and falls, it becomes intrusive -- often a response to the past that is reenacted after some trigger. It then distorts one's emotional and physical wellness. I find it critical to help client resolve past issues that lead to anger being held, and then learn to see present circumstances clearly, so that their response is appropriate to that moment, and not to behavior learned years before. I have found EMDR, hypnosis and mindfulness in resolving what is past, understanding what is present, and learning to work with emotions appropriate to the moment.
Jill Weldum, MA, LMFT, CCPT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Play
528 Oak St., Syracuse, NY
We all feel angry sometimes. If your anger is controlling you, or if people around you are saying you seem frustrated alot, it might be time to talk to someone about it. Because I understand the healthy role of anger in relationships, we will identify what is prompting your chronic frustration, defuse it, and help you return to a happier state of mind and more satisfying relationships.