Anger Management and Counselling in Thunder Bay, ON.

Anger is a normal part of human experience. Problems arise when anger is poorly managed and expressed in ways that are harmful to our selves and to others. Would you like to stop anger from getting the best of you and hurting your relationships with the people you care about. Counselling can help you find ways to manage your anger and learn how to express your feelings and ask for what you want without losing your cool.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

I use a combination of Narrative, Solutions Focused, and Emotion Focused therapy to help clients address the underlying pain informing feelings of anger. Clients can experience anger getting the way of important relationships or preferred outcomes. Sometimes anger has been an adaptive and helpful response for clients in the past, and one that they want to choose to live with and respond to a little differently now. I aim to help you understand the causes and subsequent triggers in order to better respond when these feelings arise. Book a consult to see if we would be the right fit.

We all get angry sometimes as anger is part of our core emotions. If you find yourself struggling with managing your anger, which is impacting your relationships and affecting your life, you likely have a lot of emotion to work through. Seeking help and speaking to a therapist can help you process your emotions and allow you to find better ways to address your emotions and navigate challenging situations.

Maybe you are reaching out because your words and actions are affecting those you love. We will work together to address your emotional reactivity so that you can create enough space before your actions so that you can choose a different path. We will explore what is underlying your anger so that we can address the root cause. Anger is a secondary emotion, and we will work to discover the primary emotion that is causing you such difficulties.

Anger can often feel so overwhelming that it causes you to do things you later regret. Not knowing what came over you, there are many unanswered questions: why do I keep doing this? why can't I stop myself? Sometimes, alcohol, substances, or other addictive behaviours lead to this anger, making it more difficult to control. As an addiction counsellor, I help clients overcome addictions leading to anger issues so they can regain a sense of control, rebuild relationships, and gain clarity about how to move forward. If you are unsure where to start, send me a message and I can help. If I'm not the right fit, I can connect you to the right support so you can start gaining back control, today.

Most anger is based on our assumptions about we think the world should be. Once we realize it is within our sphere of influence to change our assumptions, it gives control over how and when we react. Anger is just energy, which is often sending us a message that our sense of justice has been offended. Lets work with that, and see if you agree with it, and then find ways to manage in the moment to reduce the likelihood of creating a regretful event. A central belief people often have is that other people/other events are "making" them angry. Once you come to understand where your anger comes from, it gives such a greater sense of control over reactions.

I help men make sense of and manage their anger. Typically there is so much more to the story than just stressed & irritable. Therapy helps you dip below the surface to reign it in for the long-run. With anger it's like something hits you and away it goes. A run-away train or a room you can't escape no matter how much you want to. It's frustrating to not feel control over it. People in your life certainly feel frustrated too. This only causes you to further push them away. Anger can look like yelling, or intimidation; an explosion of emotion directed at who ever happens to be there. It can also be held inside though, sometimes even directed towards yourself with harsh words or other harm.

Anger can be an overwhelming emotion, but it doesn't have to determine what you do or who you are. Strategies to manage anger, with skills to focus on what really matters to you, can help you overcome this difficult emotion and the negative impact it can have on your life and relationships. Counselling can help you be the person you really want to be.

Life pressures or historical circumstances can be driving our feelings of anger which, in turn, negatively impacts our personal wellness and relationship with others. I will work with you to identify these triggers or pressure points and develop more effective ways to manage anger. For men, depression, anxiety and fear can be underlying issues that are hidden under the emotion of anger. Let’s work together to get a better understanding of "what the anger is all about."