Anger Management and Counseling in Willimantic, CT.

Because "lashing out" or difficulty managing anger can happen for many reasons, I tailor my approach to each person. I first try to understand why it is happening, and treat the underlying reasons. Some people have powerful emotions and need skills to manage them, others have a traumatic past that needs exploration, while others may have anxiety or depression and may feel extremely irritable, thus "snapping" at their loved ones.

Erupting and lashing out to relieve your pain creates disruption in your everyday life. While anger is a healthy emotion, lashing out and rage creates guilt and relationship destruction. In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I have provided my clients with a non-judgemental safe environment so together we can build a trust where they can be open and honest without embarrassment or shame. In letting down their defenses and acknowledging their behavior my clients learn how to emotionally regulate their pain by taking ownership and removing themselves from the current situation, which gives them space to provide a more regulated and healthy response.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.