David Palmiter, Ph.D., ABPP
Waverly, Pennsylvania 18471
When someone matters to us it is as if there are hollow tubes that are connected to our hearts. Traversing these tubes are our needs. The more important the person is to us the more tubes there are that connect our hearts. When we loose someone it is as if the tubes are axed off at the other end; our needs still reach out but now there is no one there to meet them, and that is painful. Grief work consists of plucking out these tubes, one-by-one, from our heart. It takes both time (e.g., across seasons, special occasions, memories) and the avoidance of practices that don't work (e.g., trying to tape the tubes onto someone else, getting drunk). I've helped many with this so feel free to call.
Theressa McMorris, MS, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
208 N. Meadow St., Ithaca, New York 14850
Loss is the inevitable that takes us by surprise. The surprise is that it actually happened and then the mysterious journey can be very confusing. Ranging from feeling like you are on a roller coaster to feeling mired in depths of sadness. This journey is made all the more complex if the relationship was unresolved or conflicted. Loss is inevitable and everyone faces it. There is no one path. Many people will believe their is one path and then expect you to be on it or over it. Your path is your path. It is unique and it might have unique stumbling blocks. Your not alone.