Grief and Loss Counseling in Archbald, PA.

Everyone in life must face a loss which can range from loss of a friendship, relationship and death. You will get through this with support. I can help you understand what you are feeling such as depression, anger, denial, bargaining and come to acceptance and renewed strength to continue life witb a sense of hope. We will never forget the loss but will carry on.

When someone matters to us it is as if there are hollow tubes that are connected to our hearts. Traversing these tubes are our needs. The more important the person is to us the more tubes there are that connect our hearts. When we loose someone it is as if the tubes are axed off at the other end; our needs still reach out but now there is no one there to meet them, and that is painful. Grief work consists of plucking out these tubes, one-by-one, from our heart. It takes both time (e.g., across seasons, special occasions, memories) and the avoidance of practices that don't work (e.g., trying to tape the tubes onto someone else, getting drunk). I've helped many with this so feel free to call.

It's natural to feel sorrow after the loss of someone we love--whether that loss be from death, divorce or estrangement. Moreover, our psychologists understand that each person copes and deals with grief differently. Our approach to grief and loss therapy focuses on healthy expressions of sorrow, acknowledging unhelpful patterns of thinking, and providing skills to cope with loss. This has proven to be a very effective approach when dealing with grief and loss.

To help a client cope through grief and loss, I sometimes use the example of how an oyster forms a pearl. The oyster ingests a grain of sand that causes pain, and which cannot be removed or dissolved (just like we cannot eliminate the pain of missing a loved one). So the oyster begins to encase the grain of sand with layers of calcium-like substance, that makes the grain of sand easier to carry and hold, without the rough edges. Coping through grief and loss can involve learning how to unpack, experience, and adjust how we carry the pain. Therapy can help you soften and encase the pain of loss, forming a "pearl" around it that is easier to carry with you, and perhaps make it more precious.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Harlene Arenberg has had profound losses of her own and has used those experiences to help countless others learn to "bear the unbearable". Suffering the loss of someone you care about can bring a number of thoughts, feelings and behaviors to the surface. Guilt, worry and depression can often be experienced. Getting through this situation is critical to your well being. Expressing your feeling, asking for help and reaching out will help you to understand the complex way you are feeling. Call Harlene to start healing today. Therapist Harlene Arenberg is practicing in Scranton, Pennsylvania. (18505) She is available for grief and loss counseling sessions.