WHAT IS ANXIETY?
To understand anxiety, let’s look at fear first. Fear is a protective mechanism and an appropriate reaction to a real danger. Anxiety is a reaction to a perceived danger or threat and becomes a problem when magnified out of proportion. Some of the symptoms that may be experienced with excessive anxiety are:
- panic and fear
- sleep problems
- obsessive thoughts
- heart palpitations
- compulsive behaviors
ANXIETY IS TAKING OVER YOUR LIFE
When anxiety is taking over your life you feel overwhelmed, helpless and out of control. Worrying takes up more and more of your time and energy. You know that some of your thoughts and behaviors are unreasonable, but can't stop them. Anxiety shows itself in many ways. You may have panic attacks, phobias, obsessive thoughts or compulsive behaviors. Loneliness and isolation are becoming your frequent companions. It's hard to explain and often embarrassing to tell your family and friends what you're going through and hard for them to understand. This is not the life you want to live.
YOU WONDER WHY YOU ARE SO ANXIOUS
You wonder, "Why me? Why can't I stop this?". Self-blame comes in..... You need to know that you are not the only one. One out of six people experience significant symptoms of anxiety at some point in their lives. There are several factors that can cause or increase anxiety.
YOU WONDER WHERE THE ANXIETY COMES FROM
There is a strong biological component to anxiety. Often, when there is a parent who is worrying excessively about their child being anxious, that parent probably has a history of being “a worrier” too. And if you go back another generation, one of those grandparents very likely had some “worries of their own”. In addition to the biological sensitivity to anxiety, the environment that the child grows up in is a contributing factor to the anxiety. When a parent is anxious, the child will absorb some of this anxiety, increasing his own. Other stressors and traumas that one has experienced over time will contribute to the increasing anxiety.
HOW YOU HANDLE IT
Anxiety may be new to you, or you may have struggled with anxiety for a long time, maybe your entire life. You try to handle it the best way you can. Sometimes you avoid the situation or the people you are feeling uncomfortable with. You try to live with it, live around it, sometimes just suffering through it. Your fears take over, you keep obsessing. You try not to worry, you know you shouldn't worry so much, but you can't seem to stop. You've tried different ways to lessen your anxieties and decrease your stress and maybe even tried some therapies to cope with it, but with only some success.
You're frustrated and wondering if there is a way out. Is there really anything that can make a difference?.... The answer is yes. Even if you have a biological predisposition to anxiety, have anxiety in your family, or have experienced trauma in your life, you can recover from this. There is help for anxiety. There are different strategies and therapies that do help.... These are several of the unique and powerful therapies that I have found to be most effective in my work in helping to reduce anxiety:
- Percussive Suggestion Technique (PSTEC)
- Meridian Tapping Therapies / EFT
- SandPlay Therapy
- Heart Rate Variability Therapy
For more information about these therapies and additional articles on anxiety, please visit my website at CounselingbytheShore.com.
Give yourself the chance to live the life that you really want to live.
I specialize in working with parent and children experiencing anxiety. My goal is
to help you to decrease your anxiety and that of your child. I use innovative and
creative therapies that will help to resolve distressing feelings either of you are
experiencing. If you have any questions about this article or would like to discuss
any concerns that you have, please feel free to contact me at the phone number or
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Elaine M. Corona, MSW, LCSW
Counseling by the Shore, LLC
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