I graduated in June, 2008 from Seattle Pacific
University with a Masters of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy, focusing
on individual and couples’ work. I have advanced training in Lifespan
Integration, an effective treatment modality for anxiety, PTSD, attachment
injuries such as childhood neglect, abuse and abandonment, and more. I have
received extensive training in Attachment Theory, the Cloud-Townsend Growth
Model (heavily influenced by Object Relations), and Internal Family Systems
Therapy. I am a member of both the American Association of Christian Counselors
(AACC) and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).
...And How I Work
I specialize in couple and individual therapy focusing
on relationship or attachment injuries and patterns as well as resolving
childhood and adult trauma (e.g., abuse, abandonment and betrayal). I work with
whatever it is you bring to each session, meaning your current thoughts,
emotions, conflicts, etc. This keeps the therapeutic process rich and real
while enabling us to get to the deeper underlying issues rather than just
staying on the surface treating symptoms. A helpful metaphor for the way I work
comes from Drs. Cloud and Townsend, “You can pick a sick piece of fruit off a
tree, but this doesn’t cure the tree. If the tree is sick, you must go for the
roots to make the tree well again."
On a Personal Note
I have been married for 32 years and I have two adult
children. In my relationships I make every effort to practice the therapeutic
theories, models and tools with which I assist and teach my clients. I have
been a Christian for more than 30 years, and my faith is an integral foundation
of my life. I recognize each client as a creation of God, endowed with purpose
and a longing to give and receive love and respect. Clients are not required to
share or embrace these beliefs as part of the therapeutic process. My intention is to respect the clients’
belief system and help them find healthy freedom to thrive in the choices they
make for themselves.
Why Do I Do What I do?
What I most enjoy about the work I do as a Couples and
Individual therapist is the connection that is made and the hope that is given
when the client knows I "get" them. When I help the client understand that I understand, when
he or she knows that I care and that I also have a path toward healing—along with
the confidence and the knowledge to guide them on that path—that is when therapy
is at its richest. What often follows is we begin to make those incremental
changes, along with those sudden major shifts, and the client’s world and their
relationships are significantly changed. This is extremely gratifying for both me
and my clients.
...And For The Desired End
Another thing about trees… “Hope deferred makes the heart
sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life,” Proverbs 13:12. When an
individual comes to me depressed or anxiety-ridden and I am privileged with
being a part of shifting their internal and external worlds, I feel very fulfilled
in that I have helped to alleviate suffering and to enrich their lives.
Likewise, when a couple comes in for counseling and they are emotionally cut
off and at war with each other, yet after much relational work in therapy they
are now deeply connected, committed and equipped to endure, I am joyful to have
participated in restoring relationships and healing hearts.
Kira Love Flores ReachesEverett WAMill Creek WA