About Mary Ross
I am a Registered Psychologist and have been working as a professional counsellor and psychotherapist since 1999.
My life experience and my professional training, practice and ongoing education have all contributed to my ability and passion to help clients in a respectful, caring and professional manner.
I have raised a family, now have grandchildren and have been married to the same person for more than 40 years. After being a stay at home mom for many years, I followed a goal and passion to help people. I went back to University to get my Master’s Degree in Educational Psychology and have been following my passion since then. I work in a private practice setting with clients of a variety of ages and backgrounds who are facing a variety of life challenges.
Philosophy of Therapy
I am here to listen respectfully, have compassion for your struggles and to offer help from an outside and professional perspective.
I see counselling and psychotherapy as a collaborative journey that we take together. As the client, you bring you own strengths, resilience, experience and expertise from your life. I bring the professional expertise to help in times of difficulty. Together we work to to find a way through, and give you new insights and hope. We work to help you grow, change, find solutions and find acceptance, new meaning and direction in life.
I keep the big picture in mind when helping you make the changes you want and need. The emotional, mental, behavioural and spiritual aspects of our life experiences are important and are interconnected. Past experiences can also have a huge impact on current life problems. I can help you make sense of your past, learn from it and gain new courage to live your life more fully.
I will encourage you to pay attention to what is going on now, to live intentionally in the present and use your life experiences to help you. This will help you to go forward with hope and confidence.
Areas of Focus and Approach to Therapy
Dealing with personal struggles such as stress, anxiety, depression, or anger can be very difficult. So can recovering from past abuse and dealing with emotional hurts and pain from childhood. I offer supportive, respectful help, tools and hope to you deal with these challenges.
There are times when it is important to look at the past and childhood experiences in order to understand the past, the present and to make changes for the future. I will encourage you to reflect on the meaning of your life’s story and use these experiences to build positive change for the present and future. It makes a positive difference to learn to recognize what is working in your life and to build on your strengths
Our patterns of thinking and beliefs affect our emotions and behaviours. I can help you to become more aware of your emotional states, thought patterns and behaviours and how they are interconnected. As you become aware of and change negative patterns; you will experience a greater sense of control over your life, increased positivity and healthy relationships. At times we have to learn acceptance of things we cannot change. At times we need to focus on the things we can change in our lives. I can help you to learn to focus on the things in your life that you can change.
Marriage and Family Therapy
I love working with couples and helping them through the struggles and difficulties in their relationship. Whether a couple is “just” dealing with communication issues, and everyday stresses or struggling with a major hurt such as an affair, I can help.
My goal is to help each person find that sense of connection and belonging; that they are cared for and understood and that their partner ‘has their back’ no matter what. I guide couples to learn to treat their partner in ways that truly makes them emotionally safe and connected, cared for and understood.
Relationships can provide the greatest joys in life and the greatest pain. As we work together, couples begin to recognize, understand and change patterns that keep them stuck. They become aware of how they each contribute to these patterns. I provide effective tools to:
· Change these patterns
· communicate in ways that both feel heard and understood,
· manage conflict in ways that lead to a greater sense of connection, emotional safety and a sense of resolution.
Couples begin to feel supported by each other and each person finds that their needs and wants are being met.
I help couples to learn how to have fun and restore romance in their relationships, to see a future and to create dreams and goals together.
- Relationship counselling
- Marriage and Family Therapy
- Communication and Conflict Resolution
- Healing from Emotional Trauma and Abuse
- Anxiety and Stress
- Workplace Issues
- Balancing work and home
I incorporate several theories of counselling to help clients on their journeys of healing and personal growth. I continue to learn through educational opportunities and stay current with new and effective approaches to counselling and psychotherapy.
- Emotionally Focussed Therapy for Couples and Individuals
- Gottman Method Couples Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
- Family Systems Theory
- Solution Oriented Therapy
- Narrative Therapy
Credentials and memberships:
- Master of Education (psychology) 1999, University of Regina
- Saskatchewan College of Psychologists; Registered Psychologist, #551
- Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association; Certified Canadian Counsellor (C.C.C.)
- Professional Association of Canadian Christian Counsellors and Psychotherapists; Certified Member
- American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists; Affiliate Member
- American Association of Christian Counsellors; Member