Steven Shragie Gestetner, MACP, IFS, EFT

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  • NORTH YORK, Ontario, M3H 3H7
  • Phone: 6472108884
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 “We spend our whole  lives running from feelings with the mistaken belief that we can not bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all that you are beyond the pain”.  -Kahlil Gibran
 

Like many other people in our society, I have felt pain and went to great lengths, no matter the consequences to avoid feeling the pain again. However, after pursuing many unhelpful paths and distractions, with much support, I was led through my pain to a place of acceptance, balance and personal growth.
 
I decided to pursue a Master’s in Counselling Psychology and additional intensive training in therapeutic modalities that support real emotional awareness and healing. I, like others, have found that cognitive and behavioral theories while widely popular, are popular for reasons that have to do with our society’s focus on the rational, meaning making and an aversion to really allowing feelings to be experienced or expressed.
 
I believe that nature has provided humans with innate healing abilities and avenues for self awareness. Rational thinking is wonderful for many of the tasks that our society and economy values. But rational thought is slow and our emotions are super fast. When we are emotionally triggered our emotions can hijack our entire brain system way before we can rationally analyze and reason with our trigger. However, when we increase our ability to be mindful or our emotions without jumping onto the emotional roller coaster, we can take the time our brain needs to feel our feelings without becoming overwhelmed.
 
When we fully experience our emotions and body felt sense we are accessing the  essential components of our natural human operating system. Being in touch with our emotions and our feelings in our bodies can lead to healing. One primary underpinning of Richard Schwartz’s Internal Family Systems (IFS), which I practice, is that all of our emotions and thought patterns have a constructive purpose. Even if we find that some actions and behaviors are producing unhelpful or troublesome results, the underlying motivations of these actions are intended to protect us from pain and hurt.

We have all had challenges in our lives. Sometimes we have come away from these challenges with injuries and difficult relationships. Relationships have a huge influence on our life and well-being. Humans thrive when they have connection and intimacy. I have been trained by Dr. Sue Johnson author of “Hold me Tight” and originator of   Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) as she says: “When people feel loved they are freer, more alive and more powerful than they ever imagined”.   
 
We have sometimes acted in ways that has hurt ourselves, hurt others and felt like we could never be the same again. Yet we are all just trying get better than before. We live in an airbrushed society. Comparison to others brings unhelpful stress. The only person to compare yourself to is who you were yesterday.


Steven Shragie Gestetner Reaches

Toronto ON