Anger Management and Counselling in Cochrane, AB.

I help clients manage anger with cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), a research-based approach in which I am certified. I help clients view anger as a helpful emotion if managed properly. I focus on clients reducing the intensity of their anger internally and expressing the concerns underlying their anger in a constructive manner.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Deanne has extensive experience working with clients who struggle with anger. Deanne’s warm, empathetic and non judgemental approach helps the client to feel safe, heard and understood in session. Deanne believes that anger is an important emotion that provides us with information if we can just learn to slow down our reaction and be curious about the emotions underneath the anger. Deanne draws on DBT to help build the skills to become less reactive to anger and learn more about what the anger wants to teach us about ourselves.

When we can learn to investigate anger, build acceptance and tolerance for uncomfortable feelings, and find ways to soothe ourselves, we can manage anger in ways that are supportive of our relationships and supportive of ourselves. Learning anger management can involve building skills in multiple areas including communication, needs identification, distress tolerance, and/or emotional regulation.

At Living Well we do not believe in "anger management" alone, as this simply manages symptoms as opposed to finding a cure. There are often very good reasons people are angry, and we believe these reasons need to be attended to for proper treatment to take place. If you choose to work with one of our therapists, the therapy will offer you ways to cope when you're feeling angry, but also resolution to much of the anger you feel. This form of treatment is often far better to see long lasting results.

Our anger can be a sentry, a protector and a wise indicator that our boundaries have been transgressed or that something vitally important to us is threatened. It can also be a raging tyrant, a short fuse, a simmering internalisation that off-gases through passive-aggression, or a childish tantrum. Becoming intimate with our anger is synonymous with becoming intimidate with our power. In anger therapy, we will work to understand the unique way your anger process happens through somatic awareness, mindfulness and emotional intimacy. We will look at your history with anger, your family lineage, and you will learn tools to channel this fire in ways that support rather than hinder your life.

It often feels like Anger arises without warning. Before we know it, we are in the midst of an angry outburst. It doesn't need to be this way! At Menla Psychological Counselling you will learn ways to regain control of your anger, rather than having it control you. The goal of anger management isn't to get rid of anger, it is a valid emotion after all, but rather to stop anger from causing chaos and pain in your life.