Anger Management and Counseling in Columbia, IL.

Everyone gets angry at times, but some people struggle with aggression that can interfere with their ability to have healthy relationships. Anger can stem from many things but domestic violence, substance abuse and trauma are the most common. I use a cognitive-behavioral approach to help clients understand what is fueling their anger and then learn positive coping skills to manage those emotions.

Even what we tend to think of as minor outbursts of anger can be incredibly destructive to relationships (couples, parents-children, among friends, in the work place, even road rage). Anger is generally a secondary emotion, a response to underlying hurt and fear. Anger itself is not bad; it is how we express it than can be very harmful. Jerry knows from personal experience that you can learn how to identify the underlying sources of anger and deal with them in such a way that anger can actually become a friend and can be used for the good of our relationships.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwaive optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

Sharon enjoys working with individuals of all ages that are experiencing anger issues because she feels her treatment approach is effective. Each clients plan is individualized, however, to address anger she frequently provides a combination of counseling, EMDR, and biofeedback (She offers; EEG biofeedback, Quantum biofeedback, temperature training, relaxation exercises, etc). Biofeedback can have a calming and stabilizing effect. Counseling and EMDR can help individuals process their anger and learn new strategies to cope/deal with anger. If necessary, these therapies can also help clients identify and change negative core beliefs that are at the root of their anger. Call Sharon today!

Anger is good! This may seem contrary to what you've always believed about anger. You've probably spent a lot of time and energy trying to get rid of it. That would be a big mistake. Did you know that God was angry at times? If God was angry, how could it be wrong to feel anger? I propose the issue is not in the emotion itself, but in how we express it. You'll benefit from counseling for anger issues by learning healthy ways to use your anger, becoming more emotionally insightful, and developing skills to become connected deeper relationally.

We look at anger as a secondary emotion. It is very easy to characterize a person as "angry" and not explore where the reaction or response truly stems from. Our approach is to provide healing at the root. We explore what other emotions may be operating, so that we can address what has really provoked a negative response. We also try to find ways to replace the thoughts that evoke an angered response with something that helps our clients feel more in control.

Pain is often what lies buried underneath anger. Anger can be a very effective defense against incurring any further pain or feeling the pain that is already there. Anger can also be a catalyst, helping to motivate us to make a change in our lives. However, when we hold onto anger after its usefulness has expired, (it is no longer constructive)or we are not in control of our anger and as a result we act out in destructive ways, anger is suddenly a huge liability. When we act destructively, and not constructively we are caught in a way of life that does not allow for further growth. Learning new coping skills to help manage anger is an act of courage and the first step toward healing.

Anger that comes up with clients is frequently a secondary emotion with the root of the issue being the feeling of being mistreated. Amy helps clients recognize what their anger triggers stem from, and to find an alternative response other than the unwanted anger while still feeling in control. She also aids in helping her clients with developing problem-solving techniques that make her clients feel empowered which assists in helping reduce the risk of frustration or anger.

I have never met a person who doesn't have some reason to be angry. But, I have also seen much displaced anger, rage disproportunate to the situation at hand and relationships destroyed due to anger. If your anger is bothering you and getting between you and the people you love, call me today. I have been able to help many people see where their anger may originate and better navigate their emotions, thoughts and behaviors. There is hope for those who call.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.