Anger Management and Counseling in DeLand, FL.

Anger that is not dealt with and expressed explosively can result in damaged relationships, terminated friendships and jobs, embarrassment, guilt and even jail. If it’s held in, anger can result in heart disease, ulcers, anxiety, depression and bitterness. Anger isn’t right or wrong, it’s just an emotion. Emotion is energy in motion. You can learn how to calm yourself. I can teach you how to manage the energy of your anger. I can help you to heal from painful past event that may be fueling your present anger. This will empower you to set and hold your boundaries, communicate more effectively and face your challenges more creatively. See emdr.com for more info. and research.

I help clients manage and conquer anger with a number of approaches. I encourage clients to make lifestyle changes to help with anger. I also counsel clients to employ techniques like mindfulness, meditation and breathing techniques to reduce anger. I train clients to improve their communications abilities and use communications strategies. I also help clients develop assertiveness instead of aggressiveness. To the extent anxiety or depression increase anger issues, I address those in therapy.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Anger is an essential emotion, but ignoring the secondary feelings underlying anger can create significant problems in your life. My goal is to remove anger from the driver's seat of your life. There are several steps to this process including, understanding anger triggers and pre-triggers and developing a more comprehensive emotional vocabulary. Upon completing therapy with me, you will better understand yourself, be back in the driver's seat of your life, and communicate more effectively with those around you.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Many times anger is the only acceptable emotion, especially for men. Uncovering the feelings, emotions and frustrations that are behind that anger can completely change the dynamic. Let's work to understand what that anger is about and heal it. Decreasing anger can completely change your relationships and increase a sense of calmness and peace in your life. It is never too late to have a happy life.

Anger and rage are strong emotions! Together we will discover their roots and discuss tools that will help you get back in control. Our society teaches us very impactful messages about anger. Girls are not encouraged to have it so they cry. Boys who are sad are criticized when they cry and are taught anger is acceptable. We either implode or explode. If you are struggling with overwhelming anger or rage or unable to get angry reach out today. Together we will explore this powerful emotion.

We help our clients to have greater understanding of themselves and their interactions with others to improve the quality of their relationships. We utilize mindfulness, self-exploration, and self-soothing techniques to help improve clients' emotional regulation skills. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR or ART, Trauma-Focused CBT, and Existential Therapy are especially helpful for healing trauma and improving interpersonal interactions with others.

Lets explore why you are angry, how long you have been angry was it learned, were you abused growing up or abandoned this will give anyone anger, the possibility of not being loved. I have heard “Why did mom leave wasn't I worth her hanging around or I was sexually assaulted and mom didnt believe me and stayed with the person and of course this has not healed yet.