Anger Management and Counseling in Fountain Hills, AZ.

Anger is a normal human emotion. When expressed it can be productive or destructive, affecting a person's health and relationships. In working with anger management, I help clients identify its origin, whether it's a learned response and to become aware of the triggers. I work to help them learn to regulate their nervous system and challenge any negative thoughts so they can learn to express rather than act out their feelings.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

I specialize in helping men, and anger management is one of the things that guys struggle with most. For most men, we either stuff our anger and let it fester, and then usually explode when it has built up to a point that it can't be pushed down anymore. It's like a pressure cooker. I work with men to help cool their anger, and come up with other tools and outlets for their natural expression of anger. Also, for some men, depression is an inverted form of anger expression, and I work with is meant to help give a voice to their quiet suffering. I work with angry and depressed guys in the greater Phoenix, Arizona area.

Anger is a specific form of dysregulation where the body is out of balance and looking for away to get back into balance. We work with clients to get back into balance and find ways to release anger in healthy ways. Our goal is to understand where the anger may be coming from and work to find ways explore the things that may be underlying the anger response.

Problems with appropriate expression of anger often contribute to relationship strain within couples, marriages, parent child connections, friendhips, families, friends and work associates. Dr. Keller helps patients explore the underlying hurt and feelings of vulnerability often associated with impairments in anger management. He teaches assertive skills, communication skills, conflict negotiation skills,and relaxation skills necessary for appropriate expression of anger. At times inappropriate anger is related to neurobiological problems and or substance abuse.. Dr. Keller refers patients to medical speicalists for further evaluation when indicated.

The goals of therapy are expressing feelings assertively, identifying upsetting situations or triggers and being emotionally prepared, thinking logically, focusing on solutions, and calming down when faced with upsetting situations. Common strategies introduced are impulse control, increased self-awareness, meditation and breathing techniques, relaxation strategies, personal reflection, and emotional awareness using CBT, ACT, and solution-focused therapy.

Experiencing peacefulness, calmness, and a sense of control is possible when you work with a therapist to address anger concerns. Anger is a natural human response, however anger can also be accompanied with unwanted consequences. Addressing anger in therapy will allow you the opportunity to not only learn skills to manage and reduce anger but will also allow you to get to the root of your anger, creating greater insight and lasting change.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwaive optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

Anger actually plays an important part in our emotional expression, sense of felt self and identity. Thus, I do not work to obliterate your anger. Anger is a powerful tool that builds rapid confidence so we can handle perceived threats and violations. I work with you to manage your expression of that anger so that you don't violate another or defeat yourself. It is possible to gain mastery over our emotions and our actions. Much of anger and its unhealthy expression is rooted in entrenched automatic behaviors to which we are more vulnerable when stressed or triggered at the subconscious level. Therapy can help you understand your anger and master it at that level.

I'm Josh and I am a substance abuse counselor. Being a recovering person myself who has been sober from drugs and alcohol since April 2011, I know the frustration and agitation that comes hand in hand with substance use and recovery. Many times, anger is the driving force behind substance use in the first place. Being a substance use counselor and running anger management groups in the past, I know what works and what doesn't and I look forward to being able to help you as much as possible.

I utilize various techniques to assist with anger management such as: mindfulness, emotion regulation and distress tolerance. In addition to assisting with any unresolved trauma and family of origin issues that may contribute to struggles with anger/rage. Many cognitive behavioral therapy strategies can assist with re-learning how to cope with overwhelming feelings that are inherent in anger.

Are you struggling with anger? Do you have outbursts & regret them? Do you stuff your anger & then take it out on someone? Is anger tearing apart you or your relationships? Are you worried how it will affect your kids? You are not alone. The good news is you can learn how to control your anger & still express yourself. You'll learn skills, understand where it comes from, and know how to express it in a healthy manner. Anger is a signal that you can listen to and learn from without destroying yourself or others.

Most commonly, I work with men who need help with anger. All of us can lose our cool and hurt other people, but some of us are more likely to express ourselves through anger. There are many reasons why someone might have this issue. The key to learning to redirect ourselves at the critical moment is to be aware of our felt sense at the time. Most people are able to detect, when they train themselves to do so, a charge of emotion in the body. At such times, one must absent the situation before he says and or does something regrettable. It is helpful to learn to be mindful of our felt senses so we can drain the stress through special techniques and also avoid losing control.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.