Anger Management and Counseling in Gustine, CA.

Anger usually is a manifestation of fear, frustration and helplessness. Anger is actually a healthy feeling because it can motivate you for changes. However, the expression of anger maybe VERY unhealthy at time.I offer patients the tools how to deal with anger and understand it's source. clients will also learn how express anger in healthy and how to avoid getting into situation where the anger is out of control.

I do not believe in "anger management". Instead, I believe in being in control of your emotions - including anger. My clients discover how to be in control of their feelings of anger or rage - instead of the anger or rage controlling them. My clients discover how they can feel anger, but then choose more effective and productive ways of expressing themselves - in ways that no longer lead to regret or hurt - but rather in ways they feel proud and good about.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I treat individuals with histories of trauma. Many adults walk away from abusive childhoods and find themselves acting in angry ways as adults. Anger is only a way that people cope with hardship, and we will work together to learn better ways to cope. Anger is only a symptom-- it does not define you. Anger can mask fear, anxiety, and insecurity. We will work together to find the true underlying issues causing anger. With hard work, you may see the anger melt away over time. I feel our society sees anger as a dirty or shameful part of our mental health, but this must change. You will not be treated poorly in my practice if you are making the effort to learn to cope better!

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Seeking support and guidance can help enhance your relationships with family members, co-workers, and others in your life. Anger is a normal human emotion, however, experiencing constant anger and/or aggression can damage your health and lead to conflictual relationships. I provide a safe, nonjudgmental, and comfortable environment in which we can work to find strategies and solutions to decrease anger outbursts, irritability, and aggression. Please call today for a free consultation so that we could explore our options.

Anger management is more like, managing our feelings and thoughts productively in order to make effective behavioral choices. In therapy, I help people recognize a pattern of behaviors, like getting stuck on a rail road track. Once on it, they can't get off until they have exploded in some since of the word. My therapy provides steps to take where each person has available choices and responsibility for those choices once taken. I provide encouragement and support, the individual provides their strengths. Initially, working together, managing feelings and thoughts, then making effective choices becomes easier until I am no longer part of the process, and the person is no longer stuck.