Anger Management and Counseling in Laguna Woods, CA.

We all get angry, but it’s how we express it that really makes the difference. Some people struggle with controlling their reaction to anger. They can either internalize it, which can lead to depression or they can externalize it, which could lead to outbursts and aggression. Both of these scenarios can be helped with learning some anger management techniques. I can help you learn to recognize your triggers and utilize your coping skills to slow down your reaction to anger so that you can identify the true reason for your feelings. Learning how to control them will result in more confidence, but will also allow you to have better relationships with those around you.

Anger is actually a secondary emotion. Below anger one can almost always find more vulnerable emotions. It is difficult to access and communicate those more vulnerable feelings when emotions are running high. The first step is to learn to turn down the volume of the emotions. This can be done a using a variety of skills which I teach, such as through breath control, progressive muscle relaxation, body scan, calming imagery and affirmations, etc. Then once quieted we can help you to understand and be able to use constructively the deeper feelings and needs which fueled the overly strong anger response.

Anger Management = dealing with unexpressed feelings that are buried, such as shame, grief, or fear, in a way that is acceptable to yourself and the world. I have worked with many individuals on anger relief - from perpetrators to people who feel victimized. I help you unearth the root of the anger/pain, and teach you coping tools to improve your life.

Anger is a feeling that we all have experienced. However, when we have a difficult time controlling angry outbursts or when we become physically or emotionally abusive, we need to get help. Uncontrolled anger can push the people we love away, and ultimately lead to painful feelings of guilt and/or shame. Let us look at what has happened in your early relationships, that has contributed to your inability to control your anger and find other, more healthy ways for you to manage.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Using a combination of cognitive-behavioral therapy and mindfulness techniques I help individuals identify triggers and automatic negative thought patterns that lead to anger outbursts. Together we can work on changing these thought patterns and develop healthier coping strategies, such as deep breathing and relaxation techniques. In session we also work on listing skills, as well as assertiveness skills. Teaching clients Mindfulness practices can also help them cultivate awareness and emotional regulation, leading to greater emotional control and improved relationships.

I do not believe in "anger management". Instead, I believe in being in control of your emotions - including anger. My clients discover how to be in control of their feelings of anger or rage - instead of the anger or rage controlling them. My clients discover how they can feel anger, but then choose more effective and productive ways of expressing themselves - in ways that no longer lead to regret or hurt - but rather in ways they feel proud and good about.

Often our relationship with anger can transform from 'management' to recovery, when we allow ourselves to work through the themes that generated the anger in the first place. Anger keeps us stuck and directs too much of our energy in a non-productive manner. I can help you work it through so your energy can flow in a more profitable direction. An internal shift of this type and magnitude can represent the difference between getting through life with anger and resentment and fully enjoying your life.

Is your anger causing you personal, social, or professional problems? Anger is usually a normal, healthy emotion. However, when anger is expressed in an out of control, intimidating, or destructive manner, it can create problems in work, relationships, and even with the law. I help people to understand and to manage their anger. Using humor, patience, and compassion, I facilitate awareness of what thoughts, beliefs, and language create triggers that ignite anger. Additionally, I teach new strategies to keep anger under control and express it in manner that will help you get what you need from others. I can be contacted at 949.370.4726 or at info@southoccounseling.com. Hope to hear from you soon!

Anger comes from someplace deep inside. I work not only at helping the person control their anger but the cause so it can permentely be deleated. Each person is uniquely different and we will work together to understand how to deal with its root causes. Most clients can learn in a couple sessions what to do in the moment to get anger under control. The rest takes longer

Anger is a very powerful emotion that can stem from feelings of frustration, hurt, annoyance, or disappointment. It is a normal human emotion that can range from slight irritation to strong rage. Anger can be harmful or helpful, depending upon how it is expressed. Knowing how to recognize and express anger in appropriate ways can help people to reach goals, handle emergencies, and solve problems. However, problems can occur if people fail to recognize and understand their anger.

All of us experience anger from time to time. It is a normal, commonly experienced emotion. However, anger can be incredibly destructive if we do not know how to control it. Frequent or misplaced anger can hurt our reputation, destroy our relationships, limit our opportunities, and damage our physical health. Acknowledging that anger has become an issue is the first step. Getting help is the second. I have worked with individuals and groups helping them to first identify, acknowledge, and then manage their anger for many years. I will help you gain the emotional skills and tools needed to control and manage your anger and help you to live a more harmonious life. Please feel free to call.