Anger Management and Counselling in Port Coquitlam, BC.

It is hard to feel loss of control over your anger. You may find it hard to manage your anger in certain situations or as you are interacting with your families and friends. We help you to better control your anger and manage your triggers through Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Narrative Therapy, and other techniques. As part of our therapeutic work, you are able to recognize your triggers and identify negative and unhelpful thought patterns and recorrect your thoughts and behaviour accordingly. You can unlearn inappropriate coping mechanisms and learn more appropriate ones.

Anger often stems from feeling so many emotions all at once. You lose a sense of control. You go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye. By getting angry you’re attempting to regain control that’s presumed lost. But instead, you’re full of guilt and shame. Feeling angry and reacting in anger, is simply exhausting. I’ll help you learn how to regain control, in a healthy way.

My approach is to use a step-by-step process that follows an evidence based approach: goal setting; self awareness; cognitive reframing; behavioural modification; review of progress. Fundamental to the work is a good therapeutic relationship. That is, we have the collaboration and trust to combine your knowledge of yourself and your situation and my skills and knowledge of the clinical issues to make change happen.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

My aim will be to help you regain a sense of control of your anger and to transform your anger into a more positive and manageable emotion and ultimately personal growth. Together we will stop, pause and reflect on what it is that is deeply bothering you and where your anger is rooted. Better understanding yourself, your triggers and environment and the factors that serve and do not serve you is one way to also better understanding your anger. This insight can ultimately lead to cultivating a better relationship within yourself and with others.

Anger is a powerful emotion that often gets a bad reputation. If you are struggling with anger, one of the most important things to do is to hear the messages anger has for you. I have worked with anger with many clients and truly believe that understanding the deeper layers underneath anger is imperative. I will work with you to process anger and help you uncover what is going on deeper.

Anger can be a reaction to a range of experiences, from past traumas to present-day stressors, and EMDR can help to desensitize and reprocess these experiences, reducing the intensity of the emotional response. Through the use of bilateral stimulation, such as eye movements or tapping, EMDR can help to process the distressing memories and emotions, leading to increased emotional regulation and a greater sense of control over one's emotional response. By addressing the underlying emotional triggers, EMDR can help to alleviate symptoms of anger and promote more adaptive coping strategies.