Anger Management and Counselling in York, ON.

Nobody wants to be angry and upset themselves or others. Anger is sometimes about current issues that need to be resolved through a good action plan. Other times it is due to deeper issues that need to be worked through. Anger is often a symptom of previous upsets or issues in our lives that caused us pain in some way. We will process those upsets through discussion and unique exercises created for you as homework or to be completed in session until they are worked through.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Anger management is about anger understanding first. Why are we angry? I will help clients' seeking assistance with anger by creating a safe space to explore the anger, to process it, and understand it. We can't seek to manage it if we don't understand what is really happening for us. Through pattern exploration of experiences with anger, we can process and navigate the emotion and work together to manage it.

Anger is one of the healthy and normal emotions. What can cause problems is unhealthy expression of anger. Clients benefit from working on strategies for managing the triggers that lead to reactive outbursts of anger. The next step is to find healthy outlets for this anger- and there are many. Anger can be a cover for other feelings. Benefit is achieved from working on these underlying feelings and expressing them in healthy ways, within the safe compassionate space provided by the therapist. Reactive patterns have been learned in our early years. It is not helpful to judge them. It takes practice to learn new ways of handling anger.

Anger presents in various forms and can range in intensity within and between individuals. When working with clients who see anger as a barrier in their lives, I strive to work together to gain an understanding of where the anger comes from, determine its different features and triggers, and explore the possible ways that you can feel more in control over this experience. Please contact me for a free consultation to learn more about my approach and to determine if we would be a good fit.

Maybe you are reaching out because your words and actions are affecting those you love. We will work together to address your emotional reactivity so that you can create enough space before your actions so that you can choose a different path. We will explore what is underlying your anger so that we can address the root cause. Anger is a secondary emotion, and we will work to discover the primary emotion that is causing you such difficulties.

Anger is the most common coping mechanism that is often misunderstood. Suppressing or avoiding anxiety inevitably leads to being overwhelmed and sometimes emotionally exploding. Instead of suppressing anger, a person should learn how to embrace it, be curious about it, feel it, understand it, and eventually channel it in a healthy and constructive manner. Anger comes from a sense of being misunderstood, ignored or left unsupported and the therapy should acknowledge and explore these areas. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.