Jonathan Gerard, DMin
208 Sunset Dr, Chapel Hill, North Carolina 27516
Every couple needs to accommodate to each other in three crucial areas--each more difficult than the previous one. First, division of labor in the home they build together. Second, issues relating to what they consider "normal"--but which really come from their family of origin. These issues focus on such areas as drinking, managing money, and public displays of affection. The third and most difficult area is the delicate balance in every relationship between intimacy and autonomy. I often find that a "problematic" behavior on the part of one member of a couple is really generated (unconsciously) by the client's need for space or closeness. One must help each to understand the other's needs.
Paul Feiger, MS
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #97796
21 Colony Pl., #250, Durham, North Carolina 27705
Sometimes two people, who care about each other, seem to not communicate. They may talk to one another, but they are not hearing what each is saying. There are misunderstandings that lead to behavior creating distance, anger hurt and guilt. Each gets so defensive that there seems to be no way to get the differences resolved, except by fighting or separation. There is a way to avoid this. It is counseling through our good offices. We provide a safe and protected environment along with proven processes to help couples resolve the issues that appear to be unresolvable.