Jonathan Gerard, DMin
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208 Sunset Dr, Chapel Hill, North Carolina 27516
Every couple needs to accommodate to each other in three crucial areas--each more difficult than the previous one. First, division of labor in the home they build together. Second, issues relating to what they consider "normal"--but which really come from their family of origin. These issues focus on such areas as drinking, managing money, and public displays of affection. The third and most difficult area is the delicate balance in every relationship between intimacy and autonomy. I often find that a "problematic" behavior on the part of one member of a couple is really generated (unconsciously) by the client's need for space or closeness. One must help each to understand the other's needs.