Patricia Kelly Michals, LCSW, MFT
Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Marriage Family Therapist
Within Driving Distance of Rancho Santa Fe, CA
Loving relationships are one of the great joys of life. I like to think of couples counseling as a three ring circus. Each person has their own ring of loving psychology, history, personality and attachment style. The third ring is the relationship itself. So we have all three rings operating simultaneously. What's important is discovering how and where these aspects work well together and where they clash. Every couple is brought together for many reasons...conscious and unconscious, and each can be a source of growth and expansion if understood correctly. Love relationships are meant to widen our personal and world view, creating harmony and happiness in ourselves and others.
Philip Kolba, MA
Looking for a change? Online counseling is convenient, effective, efficient, and confidential.
There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.