Great Couples Counselling in Markham, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Relationships can be both satisfying, and frustrating. Although we can get along with some people some of the time, in close relationships we can sometimes get stuck, over-reactive, or even too distant. In couple counselling we can explore what's not working in your relationship, what your individual and 'couple' ideals and dreams are, and then strategize and work together on getting your relationship to a better place.

We all want to be loved and feel connected to our partners. The reality is that relationships are nuanced and complicated and can often touch on our deepest wounds and insecurities. Couples therapy is a wonderful tool to aid in building a healthy and fulfilling relationship. We will work to identify helpful and harmful patterns, create space for open and honest communication, and learn how to love one another more effectively. In couples therapy your relationship is at the centre and together we will work to strengthen and maintain your connection. Please contact me for a free consultation to determine if I am the right fit for you.

Healthy relationships take commitment & work. I help couples increase emotional intimacy & connection. I help them stop unhelpful ways of interacting, achieve resolution to their unresolved conflicts, & take responsibility for their negative contributions to patterns. Couple relationships require re-committing ourselves to each other repeatedly throughout the length of our relationship. I will help you to learn to "turn towards" one another. I will also help you to eliminate the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, a phrase coined by couple researches John and Julie Gottman. Lastly, all couple relationships include pursuer-distancer patterns. I will help you identify these and work to stop them.

I’ve been helping people lead more intentional lives for over 20 years. Couples therapy supports you in reaching a fresh connection with your partner. You have the ability to have a meaningful relationship. I can help you learn the skills to communicate in a way that will get your needs met. I’m trained in cognitive behavioral therapy, developmental models,and anxiety and depression management. I will support you in creating a set of tools to help you discover your objective. Most importantly, you're a distinctive couple, with distinctive needs. My goal is to work with you as a unique couple, and focus on YOUR goals.

When I work with couples I like to use the Gottman Model Couple Therapy; drawing from The seven principles of making relationships work book as well as my training (Level 2). The information is practical and easy to conceptualize and this means you can get to work to stabilize, fortify and protect your relationship quite quickly. It can be enjoyable too, in fact, I've found you're more likely to do the work if it is fun to do it together.

If you are finding yourselves stuck in the same 'merry-go-round' (although not so merry!) of poor communication and accusation/defensiveness, winners and losers, your marriage probably feels like you're going nowhere fast! You think you've married the wrong person and feel that you've tried everything in your 'tool-bag' to do. If you don't have 'win-win', what you essentially have is 'lose-lose'.. I will advocate for your marriage...I will be your cheerleader and your coach combined, showing you how to get out of this destructive cycle and move forward to something much more satisfying. I will help you rebuild when hurts have been deep. Don't delay on this...sooner is better!

Specializing in couple therapy, I can help you and your partner work through difficult times such as affairs, broken relationship, losses, etc. As I am informed by Emotion Focused Therapy (which is effective in couple therapy), I can assist you in reaching out to your partner despite your fear and uncertainty. You will experience a closer and intimate relationship.

Relationship with "other" (meaning really anything outside of ourselves) is probably the most important aspect of living. The better this relationship is, the more fulfilling a life can become. More specifically, the relationship with a human partner is probably the most important of all relationships. Is it true to you that your heartfelt relationship with your partner is truly an integral "need" in your life? Some say that we all need connection, acceptance, and love in order to be whole human beings. Are those three essentials present in your relationship? Do you want to find ways to bring them more fully into your life?

I believe that marriage/relationship is not about finding the right person, but rather about becoming the right person. When you focus on your own behaviors and the way you treat the person you love, it will not be long before things begin to change. None of us have the power or ability to change another human being. We cannot make someone do what we want them to do. But, we can make ourselves do what we need to do in order to become the kind of person who is worthy of being in a good, healthy relationship. I will help you be a better person, more worthy of being in a healthy relationship. Focus on what you can do to make things better without any agenda toward the other person and watch what ....

If you are reading this profile, you are probably concerned about your relationship and want to seek help. You and your partner may be arguing all the time. You likely feel you are no longer connected and feel supported in your relationship. You may feel you are losing trust in your partner and in the relationship. Relationship, like everything else, requires a great deal of effort to build and cultivate. Rupture are inevitable but can be repaired/restored through the help of couple therapy. With over 12 years of clinical experience, I humbly want to support you to repair or restore your relationship. Please don't hesitate to reach out and get the help you need at this moment.

As a couples therapist, I witness firsthand the transformative power of couples counseling. It provides a dedicated space for partners to address underlying issues, improve communication, and rebuild trust. Through therapy, couples learn effective conflict resolution skills, deepen their understanding of each other's needs, and rediscover the emotional connection that brought them together. By fostering empathy and mutual respect, couples counseling lays the foundation for a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. Whether navigating challenges or seeking to strengthen their bond, couples counseling offers a supportive environment for growth and positive change.

We all long for connection. Many of us feel great in the times when a relationship is new and the connection is just developing. The problems come when we have to repair distance/rifts in that connection, or when we need to sustain and deepen our connection to our partners. Maybe we never learned how. Maybe we carry scars and trauma from past relationships. Maybe we have patterns in our histories that we never really dealt with. Maybe all of the above. Our work together will take all of that into account and in a non-judgmental environment, we will hold space for you both to learn how to repair, strengthen and maintain your most important relationships.

Everyone wants to feel heard and understood, that's why arguments are hardly ever about chores or childcare. Sessions will help you and your partner cut through the resentment and find a shared language that will help you see each other for your true selves. Communication will focus on expressing your needs in a safe environment and learning how to be able to meet your partner's needs with gentleness and validation.

Winnie provides non-judgemental and compassionate couple therapy. In dealing with Couples counselling she primarily draws from her training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT is the most progressive and well researched therapeutic interventions used in Couples Therapy. By using this practical and effective method, the goal is to help couples to identify their cycle, how they are connecting in their distressing patterns, and how they can be helped to reconnect again in a new pattern. Winnie also had attended Sex Therapy course at University of Guelph. She has also taught Premarital sex courses as well as leading female groups on the topic of sex.