Anger is a secondary emotion, it never exists in a vacuum. This means that all anger has its source, whether it be unmet needs, frustration, guilt, shame etc. A large part of anger management counseling is uncovering the primary emotion, revealing the source and understanding where the anger is coming from. Often, this knowledge alone is more than half the battle. There are other techniques as well that can help you overcome your anger when you feel like you're going to "flip your lid."

My approach to anger management is helping clients find freedom from the anger. Many times it is necessary to help clients find the true source of their anger. There are many sources that can drive the anger. Developing new skills to manage the emotions behind the anger is important as well as developing new relationship skills that many times can lessen or prevent the anger from ever developing,

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

You're not a bad person. But your anger gets the better of you. Sometimes its the only way to know how to react. Let's change that. Through our work together, you'll begin to take an honest inventory of what you've been through. More often than not, anger comes from a deep place of pain and previous hurts. By learning the root issue, we can begin to identify more helpful ways for you to manage your words and your actions.

No safer place. No better time. Life is too short to live like a volcano, not knowing when the next eruption will occur. Anger is the most destructive of all emotions, and the least productive. If you have lost jobs or relationships because of your anger, then I can help. While you may feel your anger is not an issue, or even a helpful tool to get what you want, it is costing you valuable life resources, and affecting your physical health. I can help you learn how to live life in control while still being able to express yourself emotionally. I can help you find joy in life, resulting in others enjoying you.

Anger is usually a more surface emotion for a deeper emotion such as fear or sadness. Anger can be like a flashing light on a dashboard of a car, indicating trouble inside. It is important to learn to diffuse and go to the root of this symptom. Looking at family of origin issues explains anger that many times seems inappropriate for current situations. I believe a person's past is the key to enjoying the present and fulfilling dreams of the future.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.