Theressa McMorris, MS, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
208 N. Meadow St., Ithaca, New York 14850
Anger is an important part of our lives. Unfortunately, most people are not shown how to manage anger. In fact, most people (including our media) encourage explosive anger. Anger can either be destructive or freeing. Our culture promotes explosive anger. It is often labeled as "my rights" or being "assertive". Reality T.V. is one of the greatest purveyers of this myth. Anger is often experienced as being able to be "controlled". That is just not true. It feels true because there isn't much talk about healthy ways of dialogue around why we are angry and choices that offer different outcomes. There are different outcomes. They are life giving and freeing.
David Palmiter, Ph.D., ABPP
Waverly, Pennsylvania 18471
Most people with anger control problems hate themselves for it. They often promise themselves to do better but then feel like situations get the better of them. They often feel misunderstood, under appreciated and somewhat disconnected from the relationships that matter the most to them. There are so many different causes for this. That is why the first step is to do a caring and thorough evaluation. In any treatment worth it's salt, a person first feels understood. Much of the time I find that cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), together with interventions from positive psychology, can significantly help people to act with intention, which can often feel like being reborn.