Anger Management and Counseling in Hewitt, TX.

Anger is a powerful emotion. Sometimes it is secondary to other emotions that are more uncomfortable to acknowledge than the anger. Anger can lead one to do things later regretted. Anger can also come with many "tabu's" attached; which further impede the healthy expression of anger. There are times when anger can be harnessed as the fuel to drive positive change. In counseling you can learn to stop the unhealthy and destructive expression of anger. You can lean to unchain yourself from the "Tabu" messages attached to anger. You can learn to harness the power in anger for healthy and constructive uses to fuel positive changes.

Very often we look at emotions as good or bad, right or wrong. Anger is a natural part of our emotional experience of life. We experience challenges and frustrations in our daily lives and sometimes it can be difficult to work through the experience with the intensity of anger we may be experiencing. Learning to understand what the anger is about and why it is as intense as it is can help us to move into a new relationship with our anger which allows us to experience it the way we want without guilt or shame.

In anger management, my primary focus is on instructing the client in breaking the often long-standing patterns of poor communication skills. They will benefit by learning appropriate assertiveness skills, rather than remaining in aggressive or passive types of communication responses. I define assertiveness as communicating in an honest, but respectful way. Clients will also benefit from learning anger principles such as "triggers", which are the people or situations that trigger their inappropriate anger reactions. I use role playing and "homework" assignments for them to practice improved communication. A helpful tool that I teach is simple, but effective -- "Stop and Think".

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

You'll find a secure, accepting environment to explore and comprehend your emotions in our workshops on managing anger. We'll identify the causes of anger and develop useful coping mechanisms so that it may be expressed and dealt with in a healthy way. We'll strive toward long-lasting emotional control and resolution by exploring the underlying issues. I'll provide you useful tips and tricks so you can respond to difficult circumstances with more poise and clarity. You will gain the abilities and self-awareness necessary to promote better relationships and handle life's issues with a more impartial viewpoint through our therapeutic partnership.

Whatever the issue, road rage, workplace frustration, interpersonal relationships, let me help you work through your anger. I utilize a combination of Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. The goal is to help you first recognize your anger as it manifests in your body, and then as you relax think through what your triggers are and how to keep your emotions from getting out of control. I look forward to hearing for you.