Anger Management and Counseling in Diamond Bar, CA.

We love your anger!! Anger is nothing more than a warning light on the dashboard. It means something needs work. That work may involving healing past trauma, working on finding a greater sense of purpose, creating boundaries and balance in life, or something completely different. Let us help you discover what your anger is really saying. You can learn more about us at www.HealPlayLove.org

Through use of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, I work with my client to identify and reduce negative thought patterns and thought triggers that lead to aggressive behaviors. I take a direct yet compassionate approach with my clients. I will assign homework assignments for my client to use outside of therapy to help them build coping skills to calm their emotional responses.

Anger management counseling will help you recognize what makes you angry, as well as many other intense emotions felt throughout the body. We will explore thought processes, triggers, raise awareness and provide tools for each individual case. Counseling will help create problem solving techniques as well as identify different communication styles (assertive vs. aggressive). Everyone feels angry, the anger is not the problem, rather the forms of expression.

Anger is a normal emotion that can lead to negative outcomes in your life and relationships is not effectively managed. Through therapeutic support, I help clients recognize the underlying roots of anger and provide practical tools and coping strategies to feel more in control over your thoughts, feelings and emotions using cognitive behavioral therapy and regulation management. CBT is one of the most widely effective choices for working with anger. *Please note-This is not anger management class nor do I provide court ordered anger management services.

Anger is only the "tip of the iceburg." Talking with a professional therapist will help give you insight into what is really at the core of your anger. Many do not realize that anger is actually a "mask" for many other emotions. Anger can also be "stored up" through a person's lifetime. Once you admit you are angry, then the journey begins to find out what, why, who and how. Becoming aware of the life events either in your past, or currently that you might be struggling with is the beginning of emotional freedom. We are not meant to spend our lives angry. Discovering more about yourself, your emotions, and anger will be the beginning of a journey of freedom from emotional bondage.

Anger is usually an emotion covering up another emotion. When a child is depressed, you will see anger outbursts. I will assist my client's in identifying the underlining cause of the anger and assist them in finding the tools to manage those emotions. I will also work with you in finding ways to manage your anger and find more peace in your life.

Anger is a natural emotion resulting from events that happen in our lives; we all get angry which may stem from things within or outside of one's own control. Emotional regulation is key and I can help quell those rages with techniques and strategies so that my clients can learn what lies at the root of their anger which often includes frustration and rage as well. In this manner, they can identify triggers that ignite these rages & we can pinpoint effective coping mechanisms when they do arise. Research studies have shown that psychotherapy can significantly provide a positive impact on how an individual recognizes and works to deescalate their boiling points, reducing stress/anxiety.

Anger can be a powerful emotion. Many times, it stems from unresolved pain. You see, if we choose not to feel sad or pain in our lives and think it will just go away, this does not work long-term. What tends to happen is that the feelings will leak out, usually as anger. I can show you the tools to not only manage your anger but also realize where it may truly be coming from. Please do not let your anger get the best of you.

Frustration and anger is a normal part of life but if you find your child or yourself having a negative attitude or pessimistic outlook on life; swearing and cussing at others, yelling and having anger outburst, hitting or throwing things, or driving aggressively, it is definitely time to get help. Learning how to manage your anger and frustration will improve your attitude, your relationships with others, and give you a sense of control over your life. Stop avoiding and blaming others for your negative behavior. Don’t ignore the warning signs, please take a step to improve your life and the lives of those you love.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!

Do you experience feelings of anger and irritation? I can help you to decrease your overall intensity and frequency of angry feelings and increase your ability to appropriately express your angry feelings as they occur. I can help you to develop an awareness of your current angry behaviors, clarify their origins, and learn healthy alternatives to anger. I can help you to come to an awareness and acceptance of your feelings of anger while developing a better sense of control and peace. I have many years of experience helping Corporate Executives learn ways to overcome their anger. Call 24/7 by clicking or texting (949)791-7127. Take the first step toward learning how to manage your anger.

Feeling out of control can be extremely distressing, destructive, and can have a lasting impact on your relationships with others. Learning how to manage your emotions and effectively deal with anger is an important goal, and one that can be accomplished through active participation in therapy. The goals is for our clients to leave therapy with the skills and confidence that they can manage the challenges that come with everyday life. Learning such skills will directly help with increasing the quality of your relationships and decrease the negative impact of your anger in areas such as work, school, and family difficulties. It can also potentially help avoid any negative legal outcomes.

The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions. Anger management is an approach designed to help you manage the emotional and physiological arousal that accompanies anger. As it's often not possible to change the circumstances or people that elicit anger, anger management can help you recognize your triggers for anger and learn to cope with them more effectively.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

I work closely with my clients and their families in identifying the triggers and body cues which preceed an anger episode. Focusing on being in touch with ones emotional experience prior to an outburst allows my clients to begin to identify and disrupt this behavioral pattern prior to a full meltdown. Behaviors are much easier to change before full escalation, and working with my clients and families on identifying these clues and implimenting effective coping strategies is a pivotal part of change.

Anger is not only something to "manage." The feelings in anger need to be recognized, understood, and responding to in a way that make sense. You're not bad because you are angry, you treat yourself and others badly when your trapped in intense feelings. I help people come out of the shame of being labeled in negative ways because they struggle with anger. Anger becomes less of a struggle when you're not alone in it.

Using tools for anger issues accelerates your capacity to truly heal, when just saying no or talking to yourself isn't enough! And let's face it, good advice doesn't work with anger! Tools help you use the healthier, highest-functioning part of your personality to manage your moods and reactions. Anger is often a result of triggered feelings that have been buried and surface in your adult life as explosive reactions. Yes there are tools to use to manage these triggered reactions. Talk therapy and good advice is not enough!

With a partner, I have developed a new and effective model of anger management that teaches you eight proven tools for anger control. These skill-based tools include; (1) reducing stress in your life, (2) developing empathy, (3)learning to respond instead of react, (4) changing self-talk, (5) communicating assertively, (6) adjusting expectations, (7) learning to forgive, and (8) retreating and thinking things over. These tools are taught to clients both in individual consultation and in anger management classes. They are also taught in online anger management programs I have produced.

Anger comes from someplace deep inside. I work not only at helping the person control their anger but the cause so it can permentely be deleated. Each person is uniquely different and we will work together to understand how to deal with its root causes. Most clients can learn in a couple sessions what to do in the moment to get anger under control. The rest takes longer

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwaive optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

Being angry is not bad in itself. It is when we use the energy that anger gives us to hurt others and ourselves that cause problems. Anger is a "red flag" that tells us that something is not right in our lives. If you are experiencing this type of anger, you owe it to yourself and the others you love to find out what you can do to control and even let go of destructive feelings and behaviors and have a much more productive, happier life.