Anger Management and Counseling in Riverside, IL.

Anger management is an important skill to master in our ever changing world, which brings increasing amounts of stress into our lives. I would utilize two tools: discussing an individual's background to discover possible causes for the behavior, and teaching positive approaches toward stressors. I have assisted both individuals and couples with anger management issues.

In dealing with anger management, I do not simply try to focus on counting to 10 and other superficial control mechanisms. Instead, I try to help the individual to learn to deal more effectively with the underlying causes of the anger. Anger is a defensive response to perceived threat. Thus, I help the individual to uncover, recognize and deal more effectively with the perceived threat - perceived loss of love and respect from a loved one is the most common threat. We all feel hurt when we perceive that our loved one feels or thinks less of us.

Anger provides information about what we think/feel is being threatened, and it provides the energy to act on that information. Since we are wired to become angry WHEN appropriate, only the misuse of anger is a problem. However, anger often hijacks our thinking which then compounds the original problem. When helping clients develop improved anger management skills, I help them understand the elements of our emotional-physical anger response and learn to diffuse them and effectively use the information and energy that anger provides.

Anger is the hardest emotion for others to forgive and causes the most damage to your relationships. Aggression, whether physical, verbal, or emotional, destroys trust and robs those around you of their feeling of safety. Having a lack of self-control over your emotional reactions causes the need for constant apologies and the need to rapair your relationships. Others stop being emotionall honest with you out of fear of your reaction.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger management requires a calm and respectful relationship that I build with the client. Often the client is overwhelmed and fearful, hiding behind a boisterous, heated anger. Given an ongoing opportunity to express one's situation and to be heard with genuine concern is a necessary step in the healing process for those who suffer with anger issues. Of course, we also discuss boundaries and stopping measures to manage impulse control.

Our clients can benefit from anger management counseling by understanding stress and the negative effects it brings to their lives and family. Learning to control anger leads to better decision making therefore happier lives. Let us guide you to a new understanding between being assertive vs. aggressive and a better communication for less conflict in your life.

I've seen many clients over the years with anger management issues. Men require a therapist's sensitivity to the issues they use anger to deal with. Learning the practical skills to deal with anger and understanding the issues of entitlement, humiliation, control, and fear that often provoke rage or it's opposite, suppressing, internalizing it, is my goal in working with clients through individual and couple's counseling. I see many couples where their anger with each other contaminates possibilities of working on common issues so I work with couples to disentangle their disruptive, sometimes abusive communications through a combination of individual and couple's counseling.

I use a pyscho educational approach with working with anger management. In that I teach about anger being a secondary emotion that often protects hurt and fear. We go through the anger cycle and ways to change that cycle. The goal is help clients move from destructive behaviors to constructive communication and behaviors. A typical anger management process takes four to six sessions.

We provide therapy for grief and loss which help you process the feelings you're experiencing and learn new ways to cope and heal in a safe space. We are patient and prepared to spend time to listen and provide support and comfort during most difficult stage of grief and loss. We will take our time and tackle each challenge to guide you to healing and bring positive thinking to help you recover

Anger is a normal emotion. Anger is a problem when it is out of control hurtful and destructive. Destructive anger can lead to problems at home, work , school and in relationships. Each persons tolerance level and managing skills are different .Genetic, physiology and ones environment all contribute to the way a person responds to anger. By learning skills to better manage the way an individual appraises a situation and learning positive ways to express and communicate their frustrations and hurts one can experience healthier outcomes.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Is your life becoming unmanageable because of uncontrolled anger? Or would you just like to be able to stay more in control when a stressful situation arises. The problem with anger issues is that it can often cause guilt and shame over our behaviors. We will help you with techniques to help slow the anger, but more importantly we want to get to the root of your anger and find peace so it is no longer a struggle.