will experience how to:
Reconnect with your
Identify and change the negative
cycles that get in the way of intimacy and romance,
Make sense of your own and
your partner’s emotions and needs,
Better manage stress
and conflict, and
Restore trust and safety in your
It’s All About Connection
It hurts to
feel disconnected from your partner. And sometimes the harder you both try to
close that distance, the farther apart and more lonely you both end up feeling.
Yet you keep using the same ineffective relationship strategies, because you
don’t know what else to do! Or maybe you just give up.
If yours is
like most relationships, you’re already spending enough time and
effort trying to make it work — you’re just spending it in the wrong
way. In this workshop, you will learn how to redirect your efforts and create
more connection and intimacy in your relationship.
This workshop is
based on an approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). In published
research, EFT has been shown to significantly improve 86% of relationships —
and these benefits usually endure long after completion of treatment, even for
couples dealing with significant betrayals or lack of trust.
Once couples feel securely connected,
resolving other issues in the relationship becomes much easier.
What To Expect
small group of couples, you will learn about the new science of love and
relationships, view videos of real couples being guided through the Hold Me
Tight conversations, and complete exercises in private with your partner. Group participation is optional.
This is not couples therapy,
nor is it just listening to a lecture. It is a relaxed, non-threatening
opportunity for you to experience a new way of understanding your relationship
and connecting with each other. You and your partner will have opportunities
throughout the workshop to try out what you learn in private conversations with
each other, with confidential help from the workshop leaders if desired. Group
participation is not required.
internationally-recognized workshop is based on the best-selling book Hold Me Tight,
by Dr. Sue Johnson.
Betsy Walli is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT 85860) with a
private practice in Hermosa Beach and Seal Beach, specializing in Emotionally
Focused Therapy with couples. Betsy holds both an M.S. in Marriage and Family
Therapy from California State University, Fullerton, and a Ph.D. in Linguistics
from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.
Bahar Mahmoudian is a Marriage and Family Therapy Intern (MFTI 79449) under the
supervision of Tinaz Vevaina, MA, LMFT 36313, with a private practice in
Newport Beach specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy with couples. Bahar
received her M.A. in Clinical Psychology from The Chicago School of
Some comments from participants in Betsy and Bahar’s December 2016 workshop:
“Coming in I was super scared and uneasy of what would be expected
from me. But after going through it, I absolutely recommend it. It
opened me up and I learned a lot.”
“I was nervous to take HMT in such a small setting, but Betsy
generously took a consultation call with me that reassured me that it
could turn out better – it was!”
“I attended this workshop early in my present relationship, as a way
to proactively protect and nurture my relationship. I found this very
valuable, particularly identifying raw spots.”
“This was an amazing experience – incredible approach to
strengthening a significant relationship. So glad I was able to attend
with my fiancé. Gave us tools to use for a better life.”
“The workshop surpassed all my expectations. I was worried that
bringing up feelings and issues might harm my relationship. But with the
tools I learned to use, it felt very safe, and the conversations
between my partner and me were well received on both sides and brought
us closer together.”