Depression Counseling in Salisbury, CT.

My Client's depression is often a product of frustration and anger becoming jammed up inside them. As it continues, feelings of hopeless and helplessness become stories that they are victims and without power, sort of "dead in the water." I see depression as psychologically coming from anger that is jammed up inside, but it can also come from lack of sleep or lack of exercise. Medical issues should not be ignored.

Depression is the result of a loss of sense of self, disappointment with where we ended up despite the plans we had made, disruptions in life, and conflict in relationships. Therapy can help you to understand yourself better and learn how to develop healthier relationships with others to reduce feelings of isolation and more connections to your family and community. It starts with feeling heard and validated in the therapeutic relationship.

Feelingings of depression can be organically or situationally based. Organic depression has a strong heritability factor, with everyday stressors exasperating it. Situational depression is triggered by transitions in people’s lives where their current coping mechanisms are not strong enough to create the resilience and ongoing fortitude required to counteract the mood shift. For 30+ years in clinical practice, I have assisted my clients in understanding how to embrace their mood states and build cognitive belief patterns and behavioral routines that allow them to feel that they are in charge of their life and that the depression does not own them.

You did not choose to be depressed and it’s not something most people can simply “shake off.” Depression is real. It’s life altering and can trick you in to believing that you can never be happy again. I am here to help. I would be honored to walk with you as we challenge the narrative of your depression while acknowledging how incredibly hard and real it is. You are not alone, and hope can be the beginning to your own healing.

Grey Matters International, Inc. and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D. handles depression and other emotional disorders in a very unique way. Most of therapy or counseling processes utilize validation, unconditional positive regard, and reframing as common techniques to get someone to heal from their depression. Though this can be helpful, it rarely fixes the core problem behind it and for tough cases we then refer them usually to a psychiatrist for medication which can have tons of side effects. Instead, why not try a natural and arguably more effective way to not just change your mind, but change the brain--where the depression is rooted. Contact us at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com.

Sadness comes in many forms, to let us know something about our lives that isn't working. We've been socialized to think there's something wrong with us, that we're imbalanced. I believe that while this has merit, it skips over the uniqueness of our situation and the way we adapted to early experiences in order to survive. We're here to help you uncover this nuance and to incorporate different stories about yourself. We can help. We're with you and we're here to help you be with you. Get in touch with us today.

I feel that depression effects all of us at one time or another, however, my approach is simple and that is to focus your negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Much of the time, depression can be reversed through cognitive restating statements or "reframes." For example, " I get the summer blues because summer is over and there isn't anything to look forward too." A reframe would be, " summer is over, however, I am looking forward to the fall and beautiful colors of the leaves."

Do negative thoughts or memories trigger waves of sadness? Has talk therapy or medication failed to get to the core? Does your depression keep coming back? First you need to know that you are not alone, many people secretly struggle with depression for years or decades. Many only get partial relief from medication and traditional 45-minutes-once-a-week talk therapy for depression. Thankfully, there is an alternative. I use 3-hour sessions to help you achieve up to 3 months of therapy in each session, focused on getting to the root & the core with an ACHIEVEMENT CENTERED approach that is more like a coach that gets you to run one more lap than you thought that you could.

Depression is not easy. This affects so many areas of your life and you just want to be happy. Understanding your depression is a step to the healing process and getting you on the path of living your best life. Together we will work together to identify these factors of why you are depressed and start to build up the things in your life that make you happy. We will work together step by step and get you feeling better as soon as possible.