Anger Management and Counseling in Cape Coral, FL.

Anger is an emotion. It is neither good or bad. It is reads not to let the sunset on our anger. It is what we do with our anger that determines the choice between good or bad. Anger tells us that something has to change. Anger is a motivator, it demands action. Do you have an action plan? Do you control anger or do you let it control you? Do you know your triggers eg. is there an emotional wound you are reacting from? If you find yourself in that place of rage and you are unable to calm; stop, move away, and then count at least to 10.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is a natural feeling. It is how we express it that is critical to our relationships. Working on controlling anger to prevent it from becoming aggression is a goal for many. Sometimes we just feel like we can't take much more and it comes across more angry than we expected. To be angry is a normal range of feeling, to be aggressive may require some assistance. We can help!

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Anger is one of the emotions that is often so misunderstood and seen as scary. Sometimes it can lead to people who experience anger being afraid to let others know because they fear judgement or being misunderstood. Often is is just as treatable as anxiety or depression. Understanding our emotions and how to regulate them is key and when we can lean in without judgment to observe the emotions as a curious scientist than solutions become possible. At KML, we focus on DBT heavily when it comes to understanding anxiety and learning new ways to manage it. We also first always ensure yours and others safety and develop a plan if needed. We will not judge you and are here to help you change!

We help our clients to have greater understanding of themselves and their interactions with others to improve the quality of their relationships. We utilize mindfulness, self-exploration, and self-soothing techniques to help improve clients' emotional regulation skills. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR or ART, Trauma-Focused CBT, and Existential Therapy are especially helpful for healing trauma and improving interpersonal interactions with others.

Psychotherapy offers a structured process for managing anger, often using CBT and EMDR. Therapy helps individuals understand anger triggers, thoughts, and emotions. CBT provides tools to challenge angry thinking, improve communication, and build coping skills for frustration. EMDR can address past trauma contributing to anger issues. This empowers self-awareness, healthier responses, improved relationships, and greater emotional control.