Anger Management and Counseling in Merrillville, IN.

Is your temper raging “out of control”? Do small things set you off? Do you react with sudden outbursts, flinging insults? Or, do you retreat in silent rage? Do you often feel your anger is justified, but upon reflection, regret your behavior? Or, do you find yourself locked in constant battle with people closest to you and those you love? Anger is a natural emotion, but unregulated anger can be destructive. It takes a toll on the individual and those around him or her, eroding self-esteem, wreaking havoc, and perpetuating feelings of disconnection, isolation and even loneliness. We can help you manage angry outbursts, understand your anger’s origins including unknown, underlying painful emotions, identify healthy coping strategies, channel your anger...(view profile to read more)

Anger management requires a calm and respectful relationship that I build with the client. Often the client is overwhelmed and fearful, hiding behind a boisterous, heated anger. Given an ongoing opportunity to express one's situation and to be heard with genuine concern is a necessary step in the healing process for those who suffer with anger issues. Of course, we also discuss boundaries and stopping measures to manage impulse control.

Anger provides information about what we think/feel is being threatened, and it provides the energy to act on that information. Since we are wired to become angry WHEN appropriate, only the misuse of anger is a problem. However, anger often hijacks our thinking which then compounds the original problem. When helping clients develop improved anger management skills, I help them understand the elements of our emotional-physical anger response and learn to diffuse them and effectively use the information and energy that anger provides.

Anger is the hardest emotion for others to forgive and causes the most damage to your relationships. Aggression, whether physical, verbal, or emotional, destroys trust and robs those around you of their feeling of safety. Having a lack of self-control over your emotional reactions causes the need for constant apologies and the need to rapair your relationships. Others stop being emotionall honest with you out of fear of your reaction.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

While anger is a natural emotion which everyone feels now and then, it can be very destructive when it gets out of control. When that happens, it can easily take a toll on you and those around you, leading to relationship problems, employment problems, and legal problems. The good news is that anger management therapy is a very effective way of getting greater control over your anger. When you see me for anger management therapy, we will identify events contributing to your anger and create a plan together to cope with the anger so that you remain in control. Give me a call today for a free consultation and we can put together a preliminary plan over the telephone.

As a society we tell people they shouldn't be angry. But anger is a hard-wired emotion that's part of our physical and emotional make-up. What we do with that anger however is another thing altogether. Many people with anger management issues, or people who feel overwhelmed or engulf by their anger, come to therapy feeling lost as to how to handle what they are experiencing and regret the aftermath of their "anger management." I will help you understand the deeper meanings and anchors to your anger so that instead of fearing it, mis-using it, or snuffing it out with addiction, you will be able to process and understand it in a healthy manner.

Anger can be a frustrating emotion. At times it can feel so powerful that we believe we have little ability to control it. Anger, however, is not just a frustrating and powerful emotion...it is an energy, that when properly directed, can help us achieve great things. Without proper direction, anger can become destructive, especially if we choose to direct that energy toward another individual. The ability to manage strong emotions is a skill that can be learned and used to facilitate better interpersonal interactions. If you are having trouble managing strong emotions such as anger, we can help you learn to better manage, direct and regulate your emotional energies.

Our clients can benefit from anger management counseling by understanding stress and the negative effects it brings to their lives and family. Learning to control anger leads to better decision making therefore happier lives. Let us guide you to a new understanding between being assertive vs. aggressive and a better communication for less conflict in your life.