Anger Management and Counseling in Fairport, NY.

Anger can feel like an oppressive energy that drains us. Or it can feel like it gives us power. At the end of the day though, it leaves us feeling alone, frustrated, and depressed. Anger often blocks other feelings from us, like happiness, contentment, and satisfaction. Anger can protect us from shame, grief, and self-hate. Are you looking to move beyond feeling angry all the time? Are you ready to explore more of who you are and how you feel? Are you ready to work at healing? I can help you do this. We will work together to understand your anger and help you gain skills to manage the anger so you can feel all your emotions and live a fuller life.

As a school based counselor and in a mental health setting I have taught various anger management and relaxation groups/ techniques. Assisting clients with cognitive behavioral restructuring and dialectical behavioral therapy individuals develop effective ways of managing anger. Through enhancing effective communication skills and emotion regulation techniques clients are able to have healthy and happy relationships. I am currently organizing a healthy coping skills/ anger management group for children ages 6 yrs of age through 10.

Many people don’t know that anger is a healthy emotion! We all feel angry from time to time. They key is learning how to manage our anger appropriately, so that it doesn’t impact our relationships or daily functioning. I have experience conducting group and individual treatment of anger management. This is a no-judgement zone and I’m here to help.

Anger is an important part of our lives. Unfortunately, most people are not shown how to manage anger. In fact, most people (including our media) encourage explosive anger. Anger can either be destructive or freeing. Our culture promotes explosive anger. It is often labeled as "my rights" or being "assertive". Reality T.V. is one of the greatest purveyers of this myth. Anger is often experienced as being able to be "controlled". That is just not true. It feels true because there isn't much talk about healthy ways of dialogue around why we are angry and choices that offer different outcomes. There are different outcomes. They are life giving and freeing.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is one of our fundamental emotions, part of the basic machinery of our mind and personality. In some ways it is a useful tool that helps to motivate and energize us in seeking fairness and justice in the world around us. But this powerful hold-over from our primal history can also be enormously destructive if we lose control of it. If your anger is slipping out of your control and you find yourself saying or doing things that damage your reputation or your relationships, hurt those around you, or otherwise consistently put you on the outside of society's expectations for behavior, you need help to find tools or strategies to change this and I would be happy to help.

Do you find it difficult to control your anger? Has your anger affected your career, relationships, or legal status? If so, there is hope for your to gain insight about your anger and learn tools that will help you to manage it. I am here to help you to develop the tools needed to control your anger in a healthy way and provide resources that will set you up for long term success. Call or E-Mail me today.