Anger Management and Counseling in Port Byron, NY.

We all feel angry sometimes. If your anger is controlling you, or if people around you are saying you seem frustrated alot, it might be time to talk to someone about it. Because I understand the healthy role of anger in relationships, we will identify what is prompting your chronic frustration, defuse it, and help you return to a happier state of mind and more satisfying relationships.

Anger is a normal feeling we all experience. In working with my clients I help them understand that feeling angry is not the issue it is what we do as a result of feeling angry. You will learn to recognize warning signs, identify your triggers, learn ways to better express the feeling of anger as well as how to managing it. You will come to realize that you have the power and control over your emotions and not the other way around.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Anger is one of our fundamental emotions, part of the basic machinery of our mind and personality. In some ways it is a useful tool that helps to motivate and energize us in seeking fairness and justice in the world around us. But this powerful hold-over from our primal history can also be enormously destructive if we lose control of it. If your anger is slipping out of your control and you find yourself saying or doing things that damage your reputation or your relationships, hurt those around you, or otherwise consistently put you on the outside of society's expectations for behavior, you need help to find tools or strategies to change this and I would be happy to help.

Anger is an important part of our lives. Unfortunately, most people are not shown how to manage anger. In fact, most people (including our media) encourage explosive anger. Anger can either be destructive or freeing. Our culture promotes explosive anger. It is often labeled as "my rights" or being "assertive". Reality T.V. is one of the greatest purveyers of this myth. Anger is often experienced as being able to be "controlled". That is just not true. It feels true because there isn't much talk about healthy ways of dialogue around why we are angry and choices that offer different outcomes. There are different outcomes. They are life giving and freeing.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.