Great Couples Counseling in Waller, TX. Therapy to heal relationships.

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

I am a big believer in emotionally focused therapy (EFT) for couples and relationships. Attachment theory is a powerful frame of reference and one in which couples can learn to attune to their partner's needs and bring greater harmony to the relationship. I work with each partner and then come together to understand the picture as a whole. Through EFT it is entirely possible to bring new understanding to both partners so that they can re-ignite the passion and cut through the frustration of mixed messages and hurt feelings.

Relationships require compassion, respect, and recognition of "other" to thrive. We learn how to be in relationship in childhood, and naturally bring those skills to adult life. Through insight into individual beliefs and patterns and how those contribute to you seeing and hearing others, you can make adjustments to enhance your relationships.

We are never more vulnerable than when we give the gift of our self to another, to form a couple. Our interactions can turn into negative patterns that are hard to break on our own. We help couples identify what contributes to these patterns. We explore what each person thinks a good relationship looks like and what barriers may be currently in the way of achieving that view. By focusing not on what needs to be changed in our partner but what we can change in ourselves, we can help the couple see what they can do better together, than they could do as individuals on their own. If each person can gain a better understanding of themselves, they can learn to live more in harmony with the other.

I work with couples from many different cultural backgrounds and sexual orientations to help them communicate more effectively and find joy in their relationship again. I will provide an atmosphere of respect, while listening, giving honest feedback, and helping you to connect again. I feel that you can learn how to improve your relationship and make it more satisfying and enriching. Whether you are starting a relationship and want to improve it with pre-marital counseling or whether your relationship has hit rock bottom following a break in trust or infidelity, I will work with you to help create a healthier, more caring, and more rewarding connection together.

Relationships can be so hard and can feel easily disconnected. It takes maintenance and work to continue a healthy relationship. Just because you are fighting does not mean your relationship is bad or dysfunctional. It is about how you both can get through conflict together that makes the difference. Therapy can help you better communicate and connect with each other. Validation, empathy, and intimacy are key components to a relationship. One of my passions is to help you have a better relationship.

Relationships devastated by infidelity, pornography, addiction, lies and betrayal can feel hopeless. My personal and professional experience has taught me relationships can overcome this if both parties are motivated to get help and do the work. It takes time and is not easy. Patience and empathy, especially from the injuring party, are crucial. I can show you how healing is possible.