Do you ever feel withdrawn and underachieving in the things that you do? Having a low self-esteem can transform the way that we see our potential and valuation. Although we may have a lot of great qualities many of us tend to look at our faults and build assumptions off of them. Both a low and high self-esteem can be changed into a healthy perception after we learn how to control our thoughts and responses.

Each of us has dealt with issues in regards to our self esteem. When we possess little of it, it can lead to worsening problems such as depression and anxiety. It can cause us to fall short of our own potential or keep us in uncomfortable positions. Self esteem issues don't only pertain to insecurities. If there is too much self-love present it can also create a sense of entitlement. A self-esteem that is too high can cause the person difficulty because they may not always learn from their failures. They may be overly boastful, narrow minded and lack an integral respect toward others. Who we are is something that should be seen as a continuum. If you find that you are having a hard time maintaining yours you can benefit from speaking with a therapist who will help you lead a healthy optimum both emotionally and socially.

When Self Esteem Harms Someone

There are major differences between people who possess a high and low self-esteem. Those who are sure of themselves tend to focus on growth and improvement. Those who suffer from insecurities and withdrawal might focus on the mistakes that they make versus what they can accomplish. Thinking about either of these too much can cause an imbalance in a personality. People who doubt their ability might not want to take risks and they are more likely to exaggerate on an event in a cynical manner. Individuals who are unsure of themselves can take non-critical comments and over criticize them. They are likely to experience some social anxiety and lack in confidence. On the other hand – when an individual holds a high self-esteem they are more prone to self satisfied boasting. They may believe that their needs come first in regards to other and are more likely to get angry easily if things don't go their way. Too much of an assurance can create a superiority due to good luck or because of a given skill. Some are more prone to impulsive behavior as they seek more satisfaction. If your perception of yourself is getting in the way of your relationships or ability to function you can learn how to balance these thoughts with a counselor who will show you how to eliminate these assumptions to form new ones.

Self Esteem and External Relationships

If you think poorly of yourself it can be easily identified by others. In an attempt to attract or bond with people it can be challenging if you are suffering from a low self-esteem. The side effects can cause some to seek love the wrong way. Many of us have developed insecurities because we have given parts or ourselves away to other people in hopes that we will receive the same respect. As we come to find, this doesn't always happen and it can change the way that we feel about our self worth. It can be challenging to attract someone because of an inability to remain humble and treat other people with the mutual respect that they need in a relationship. Being self defeating or too assured can push away people who want to maintain a balanced relationship. The secret is to be well-rounded and learn how to remain assertive while providing others with the same amount of respect. Counseling can teach us how to develop these thoughts and eliminate the ones that are keeping us away from healthy social interactions. It's necessary to rebuild our self-esteem so that we can grow and flourish as an individual.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy assists us in getting rid of the negative thoughts which may be a product of an unhealthy environment. If there are people around you who are non-appreciative and are not grateful for what you contribute it can ruin your sense of self worth. The counselor will show you how to challenge your own paradigms and test your adaptability. You can learn how to alter the way that you think to avoid stress and improve your intimacy toward others. The behavioral traits that you have can also be mixed into some genetics and your upbringing. By coming to understand that you are not defined by where you came from you can also learn how to build a self esteem that adds to your happiness. A therapist will teach you how to draw your own lines for self improvement instead of assuming that talent defines what you have to offer. When we learn how to develop our self-esteem we are shaping our own discipline and values which can have a fantastic effect on someone else who may want to form a close bond with us. A disciplined self-esteem can attract others who want the same adequacy. Through assessment and determination you and a counselor can find a balanced perception that keeps you stabilized and healthy.

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