in love is the easy part, PAIRS Founder Lori Gordon often says.
Sustaining love, nurturing love, creating and maintaining a
relationship in which love can not just survive, but thrive, that's
what creating extraordinary relationships is all about. PAIRS stands
for Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills. PAIRS is for
any couple: if you have a good relationship that you want to make even
better, or you're struggling with distance; unresolved anger,
resentments or hurts; or difficulty communicating or creating as much
intimacy as you would like.
relationships don't happen by accident. Look around. You won't have to
look very far. Do you know how to tell the married couples in a
restaurant? Sadly enough, it's usually those who aren't talking to each
other. It didn't start out that way. And it doesn't have to be that
is invaluable for couples in any stage of relationship, from dating or
engaged couples, newly married couples, long-term relationships and/or
those on the brink of separation or divorce. Whether you're having a
good relationship that you just want to make better, or are having
serious problems, PAIRS can help you. PAIRS technology offers
participants knowledge and skills to talk and listen to others with
empathy and compassion, to understand emotions in themselves and
others, to deal with conflict and differences in ways that strengthen
-- rather then destroy -- relationships, and much, much more. PAIRS is
an incredible personal journey of self-discovery and learning that will
enable you to truly connect with the most important people in your life
-- including spouses, children, friends and even co-workers.
come out of PAIRS with a tool chest (graduates call it a 'treasure
chest') overflowing with skills, knowledge and experiences that make
extraordinary relationships possible. From the daily temperature
reading and dialogue guide to fair fight for change and caring
behaviors, PAIRS is filled with dozens of usable, practical skills that
you can put to use to sustain love, pleasure and happiness in your
relationships. The experience of thousands of couples who have taken
PAIRS since 1975 has confirmed -- over and over again -- that PAIRS
works! Call 248 546 0407 for more information or to register for the workshop on Saturday, February 13, 2010.
Here are some testimonials from previous PAIRS participants:
changed our relationship. We entered the program at a very low ebb - in
despair and feeling pretty hopeless about the potential we had for
happiness in our life together. From the first exercise, warmth and
trust returned and our appreciation and gratitude and love for each
other began to revive. We fell in love again.'
tools have changed patterns that I've been working with in therapy for
10 or 15 years and could not budge. We were going over the edge and
didn't have any options. You threw us a lifeline with your commitment,
your compassion, and your devotion to getting us the material in an
a young couple enjoying the beginning of our relationship, I think this
gave us a variety of ways to better share with each other, learn about
ourselves and our partners, resolve conflicts and develop relationship
skills to maintain the happy partnership we have now.'
the value of our relationship has caused me to remember the value of
myself. Instead of living beside each other, PAIRS has helped us to be
living with each other again. Any organization - a church, a family -
can only benefit when the bonds between people are healthy and
emotionally people feel safe and free. PAIRS teaches people how to heal
the bonds and free the love in safe ways.'
makes available the tools to have a relationship on purpose instead of
accidentally, as well as to know your partner and yourself better than
you may have believed possible.'
course changed a 29-year marriage of confusion, hurt, silence and
missed opportunities into a vibrant relationship of pleasure and trust
that thrives on change and growth.'
pass up the opportunity! It's far more valuable than any college class
you may have ever taken, and could enhance happiness for a lifetime.'