Great Couples Counseling in Riverbank, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

Are you and your partner having constant battles, difficulty communicating with one another, or having difficulty resolving your differences? Seeking support from an objective and nonjudgmental therapist can help. I provide couples counseling focusing on supporting each person, enhancing communication, building a stronger bond, resolving differences, exploring family of origin issues, conducting discussions that may be difficult to discuss, and approaching problems in an a effective and objective manner. Please call today for a free consultation for more information.

I have years of experience working with people to improve their relationships. I have training from the Gottman Institute and use many of the concepts in my own office to increase the understanding of the basic foundations of successful long-term relationships. At this time I am treating couples by treating the individual partner to improve the couple dynamics.

Discover how you can go from rejected to connected! Did you know the reactivity you experience is not your fault? (This is one of the main things that causes fights and arguments. It's when you feel out of control, & it leads to doing or saying things you regret, impulsivity, & leads to hurt & separation). I show couples how they can reduce the personal & relational reactivity they experience & increase feeling peaceful, calm, understood, validated, safe, accepted, & connected. I help couples discover their attachment strategies (how we feel safe & get our needs met). This is necessary in order to create lasting improvement, safety, trust, understanding, & connection, in your relationship.

Couples therapy lights me up! Not feeling heard, understood, valued or supported? Toxic conflict? Withdrawing? Longing for help? Utilizing evidence-based modalities such as EFT & powerful tools from PACT, NVC, IFS & CBT, I help couples create a secure bond, a safe haven from life's challenges, rather than an added burden. You'll learn to trust, support, hear & "be there" for each other. Discover attachment styles, the brain & nervous system, survival parts and trauma that may be hurting your relationship. Develop critical self-awareness, accountabiity & WE instead of just ME mentality. Turn towards each other instead of away with authenticity, compassion, attunement & understanding.

Individuals bring their on history into a relationship. One's history affects relationships. However in couples counseling it is more of a time of leaning what our partner needs from us and how to appropriately accomdate. This is often done by learning to be a better communicator. Good communication brings better understanding and can deepen love and respect. Occasionally individual counseling is recommended if a partner has so much unfinished business that he/she is unable to benefit to the fullest of the couples counsling.

Without conflict, couples do not achieve intimacy. The challenge is helping you and your partner learn how to have healthy conflict that leads to intimacy, rather than destructive conflict that destroys the relationship. While I work with all couples, I specialize in working with neuro-diverse couples. I usually start with helping you learn ground rules for being able to have safe, constructive, healthy conflict to reduce and eliminate destructive relational patterns. I also use Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you reconnect, learn healthy communication skills, rekindle the flame that you once had, and start talking to each other again. If you are willing to work, I am here for you!

Couples can get in a routine and can get bored with the relationship. This can lead to drifting apart and turning away from each other. Some couples deals with trust issues that can really break the marriage if not fixed. I help couples to rebuild their relationship and feel safe and secure with their spouse. They learn how to rekindle the love and admiration that got them together to begin with.