Anger Management and Counseling in Air Force Academy, CO.

Most of us aren’t exploding daily, but we can carry resentment, frustration, passive-aggression, chronic irritability, or a low-grade belief that other people will let us down, get in the way, or fall short. This version of anger may not look and sound dramatic, but it can be exhausting. Underneath the anger is often a hidden grief: over what others failed to be for you, or what the world failed to deliver once again. Therapy has the potential to help you recognize that much of your anger is not about what people are doing to you, but what they are not doing for you, and that shift can open the door to real change, not just management, but release from the tyranny.

Anger can come from a few different things; your boundaries aren't being respected, a catalyzing energy telling you that things need to change, or old wounds from childhood getting touched by current interactions with others. Anger is a signal to you to reclaim your personal power; a fire giving you the fuel you need to create change. I'm here to help you get to the root of the anger and to self-regulate through anger and other difficult emotions, so you can show up as more calm and grounded in your life.

Anger isn’t a problem to control, it’s a signal to understand. Emotions are information, and anger is a powerful signifier that something is not sitting right with you. Together, we'll trace anger to its roots in boundary violations, unmet needs, and protective survival responses in your life. Through somatic awareness and mindful regulation, you’ll learn to use anger as clear information rather than chaos, expressing it in ways that build integrity and connection instead of guilt or shame.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Our counselors strive to combine time-tested therapeutic techniques with the latest in psychotherapy research to provide you with the best and most effective anger management techniques available. We have several counselors on staff to ensure that you will always be able to access someone who specializes in your needs without waiting. Do you know what it will take to achieve your optimal life? If not, it's okay, we're here to help. (970) 227-2770