Grief and Loss Counseling in Killingworth, CT.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Have you recently lost a loved one? Whether expected or not, grief over your loss is a natural experience. Still, it can become more consuming than we like, more disruptive than our lives can reasonably tolerate. Perhaps you feel a great deal of guilt, as well as anguish. In the warmth and security of the therapeutic environment, I can help you experience your grief and loss in a healthy, respectful, yet enriching way. In doing so, you can honor the person you have lost, while also re-engaging in the other important aspects of your life. I look forward to being your partner through this challenging time.

No one likes to lose, especially when it means losing someone they care so much about. A person who comes for grief and loss counseling will begin to make sense out of loss and realize that they can continue on with the loving memory of their lost one. They will be assisted through the grief stages in order to bring acceptance and peace to themselves.

We are built for attachment, yet loss is inevitable. Since it is an unfortunate part of reality, it is paramount that we learn to process and wade through the intense emotions of grief. We don't need to shy away from this process, but actually lean into it and allow ourselves to habituate to the pain. I feel very comfortable with sadness and tears and encourage the expression and tolerance of all painful feelings.

Grief is an individualized internal experience.There is no right way or right amount of time to grieve. Dialoguing about life and death, disappointments and future opportunities allows each person the space to grieve and also recreate their lives from this moment on. In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I assist my clients as they experience the emotional pain and the full recognition of their loss. I support them as they build the emotional resilience to overcome their grief, turning their energy into future opportunities.

I believe that work plays a large role in how we perceive ourselves and others around us. The stages of change can generally apply to not only the loss of a loved one, but the loss of work, loss of a function, a child's innocence, and a multitude of other factors that greatly inhibit people from moving on in their lives. It's important to find the meaning through suffering and understand that we all have the freedom to make -sometimes undesirable- choices in our lives

Losing someone or something is incredibly hard. I believe that one of the great myths that we are told is simply that “time heals all wounds.” Time can actually reinforce the pain of loss and it is important to mourn and grieve that which we no longer have. I am honored to partner with my clients on their journey through healing and finding peace after a loss. I look forward to the opportunity to work with you.

As a psychologist, I can give people the tools to deal with grief and loss, as well as to discuss the topic in ways geared toward working through the loss. Grief and loss are both issues that present themselves during the time of loss, but sometimes unresolved grief leads to changes in a person's life years or even decades later. I especially encourage people dealing with the latter to call me. Working through a distant loss can be extremely powerful. And understanding how it still affects you can feel good, as well as to open doors that were previously closed in life.