Grief and Loss Counseling in North Canaan, CT.

Dealing with the loss of a loved one is never easy but it doesn't have to devastate you either. My therapy approach is well suited to minimizing the negative effects of grief and loss while honoring the natural progression of emotions while adjusting to life without this person or this human function. I also provide a variety of resources for you so that you feel supported while you go through the process.

Grief is an individualized internal experience.There is no right way or right amount of time to grieve. Dialoguing about life and death, disappointments and future opportunities allows each person the space to grieve and also recreate their lives from this moment on. In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I assist my clients as they experience the emotional pain and the full recognition of their loss. I support them as they build the emotional resilience to overcome their grief, turning their energy into future opportunities.

It's so important for those who have experienced a major loss, either through death or divorce, to allow themselves the full breadth of their emotional reactions, to feel the pain they're going through without judgment or haste. Grieving is a complex process, and the emotional experience may swing from great intensity to some sense of peace, and back again, with no predictability. I will help and support you in this very very painful time of your life. We will look at how these lost relationships affected and shaped you, and work toward helping you begin to open to life again, at a pace that suits your rhythm of adjusting to this major life transition.

We are built for attachment, yet loss is inevitable. Since it is an unfortunate part of reality, it is paramount that we learn to process and wade through the intense emotions of grief. We don't need to shy away from this process, but actually lean into it and allow ourselves to habituate to the pain. I feel very comfortable with sadness and tears and encourage the expression and tolerance of all painful feelings.

Grief and Loss is one of the most difficult things you are probably experiencing. Our approach is to help you process what is going on and how you can move forward. This process is individualized and we will work together each step of the way. There is no limit on grief so if you have heard "Get over it" or "Why is it taking you so long to get past this", you know you are talking to the wrong people about your feeling. You need someone who understand and can help you process these feelings, not someone who is going to make you feel shameful about your feelings. It is important to understand you do not need to do this alone.

I process with the client verbally the loss in regards to family of origin whether it be relatives, close friends, or work relationships. Over a period of sessions, the grief becomes less and less, and the client is able to concentrate on moving forward and letting go, and return to an active lifestyle both emotionally and physically. I provide for a safe environment that leads to healing, support, and empathy.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Does the moment of loss replay over and over in your mind, even months or years after the death? Do you find it hard to think about the good times without thinking about your loss? Do you feel like you are stuck and can’t move forward in your life? Are regret and guilt crippling your life? Healing grief and loss is about getting to a place of perfect peace where you can 1) think about your loved one's death without it being an open wound, 2) think about the good times you shared with them and truly enjoy each memory and 3) honor their life and the relationship you shared by developing a network of relationships that can continue to feed and nourish your soul as they once did.

Losing someone or something is incredibly hard. I believe that one of the great myths that we are told is simply that “time heals all wounds.” Time can actually reinforce the pain of loss and it is important to mourn and grieve that which we no longer have. I am honored to partner with my clients on their journey through healing and finding peace after a loss. I look forward to the opportunity to work with you.