Anger Management and Counseling in Mary Esther, FL.

In anger management, we teach problem solving skills that enable a person to control their anger when in conflict. Individuals learn awareness of their emotional and physical states when they are feeling angry, how to enhance conflict resolution skills, and learn beneficial relaxation techniques. Anger has a bad reputation. Learn from your anger. What is your anger telling you?

I often coach men on how to better regulate their emotions, including anger. I can teach you strategies from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, provide relationship insights from the Gottman Method, and help you practice calming strategies to take control back. You might have every right to be angry. But if it’s making things worse, it’s time for a change. At Lion Counseling, our mission is to help you escape the cages that hold you back and become the lion God created you to be.

Anger is one of the emotions that is often so misunderstood and seen as scary. Sometimes it can lead to people who experience anger being afraid to let others know because they fear judgement or being misunderstood. Often is is just as treatable as anxiety or depression. Understanding our emotions and how to regulate them is key and when we can lean in without judgment to observe the emotions as a curious scientist than solutions become possible. At KML, we focus on DBT heavily when it comes to understanding anxiety and learning new ways to manage it. We also first always ensure yours and others safety and develop a plan if needed. We will not judge you and are here to help you change!

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

We help our clients to have greater understanding of themselves and their interactions with others to improve the quality of their relationships. We utilize mindfulness, self-exploration, and self-soothing techniques to help improve clients' emotional regulation skills. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR or ART, Trauma-Focused CBT, and Existential Therapy are especially helpful for healing trauma and improving interpersonal interactions with others.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.