Anger Management and Counseling in Orono, MN.

Anger is not a bad emotion. Anger out of control is bad. I work with people who struggle with controlling their anger by helping them recognize early warning signs, learn techniques that will help divert their emotions toward healthier outlets, and then allowing them the freedom to come back and revist the event and process it in a way that allows for relational growth and unity. If you are ready to start getting control over your anger issues then give me a call!

Anger is not a primary feeling. While it might feel like the only thing you're aware of in the moment, anger is actually a secondary feeling, or a composite of other feelings that get wrapped up and compounded into something familiar. I will help you break your anger down into its smaller parts, such as sadness, fear, embarrassment, and/or hurt. We will also identify your triggers, interrupt unhealthy patterns, and figure out the tools that work for you in the moment.

I prefer the term trigger management. Anger stems from frustration, hurt, annoyance and disappointment. We will work together to control your feelings and actions that may have been getting you in trouble at school, home, the community or at work. Recognizing your triggers can help use appropriate ways to reach goals and solve problems. You can overcome those outbursts and lead the life you desire.

I approach anger management as a basic emotional skill. Like all skills, it can be taught and with practice it can be effectively developed in a short time. Some of the specific techniques I may use in teaching anger management are: identifying early signs of anger, breathing exercises, thought stopping, avoiding triggers, and teaching healthy emotional expression of a full range of feelings. I also use a variety of other techniques from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) to help my clients learn to effectively manage anger. Beyond the behavioral approach to managing anger I sometimes find it useful to explore the sources of the anger.

There's no shame in asking for help with anger management. What causes shame is the damage you cause others when your anger spills out onto them. In any healthy relationship, disagreements are to be expected. But decisions need to be discussed and negotiated, not forced or made on the sly. Anger management is about learning how to regulate negative emotions, ask directly for what we need, and tolerate the frustration and disappointment that come with being in relationship with others. If you are struggling to hold it together without blasting people you care about, you need help with anger management.

Do you feel irritable and frustrated? Do you rage sometimes and don't know why? When you fight with your partner, parent, or friend does it escalate quickly? Anger can come from a deep part within you that may be bottle up. It is possible to remain cool headed even if your natural go-to is anger. I can teach you effective strategies and skills to help you remain calm and collected in those moments of frustration.

Learning how to control your anger can improve your relationships, self-esteem and reduce the amount of stress you feel. Anger is a sign that something has hurt you. It is important to deal with that hurt in an effective way. Anger in of itself is not a bad thing. It is what a person does with that anger that makes all of the difference. Anger management is good for your health and all of those around you. Learning how to use your anger effectively will have a great imact on all parts of your life.

I believe anger is the most misunderstood emotion. Anger is neither good or bad. It's perfectly normal to be angry it's HOW we express our anger that gets us in trouble. Another troublesome issue with anger is dealing with those angry feelings that get trapped inside. Anger turned inward can lead to depression so we have to be careful that we just don't stuff our anger. The good news is that getting our anger under control is easier than we think. There are two primary tools to effectively managing our anger: first is gaining insight into the underlying reasons for our anger, and next is learning effective ways to manage our anger. Do not live with unresolved anger, call today.

Anger doesn't have to rule your life. I recognize that people who struggle to manage their expression of anger are hurting. It doesn't feel good or empowering to lose control. I can help you take back the power anger has stolen from you and make the changes you are looking for. I believe that if you're coming to therapy you are ready for change. Let's work together to make it happen.

Anger itself is not bad, but many of us have not learned how to handle it or channel it in healthy ways. I will work with you to identify the triggers that challenge you and help you come up with a plan of how to talk yourself into a calmer place. Then when you speak, you will feel confident that you are representing yourself in a clear, strong way.

We have a number of clinicians that specialize in dealing with anger issues whether it is with children, adolescents, or adults. Figuring out healthy ways to cope with feelings is key. Often clients need help dealing with other emotions and/or need help examining their expectations of themselves and others. Our clinicians are able to help get to the root of anger issues and help resolve those problems.

I'll help you understand the choices you have to manage and express your feelings in constructive ways. You'll become more aware, accepting, and assertive rather than reactive and misunderstood. Anger is a powerful emotion that needs to be expressed like any other emotion. Anger itself isn't bad - in fact, it's a useful signal that something's wrong and we need to take action. However, the way it's expressed can be either helpful or hurtful. Learn to center yourself and be proactive in expressing your anger in a way other people can hear.

I see anger as a secondary emotion. In order to heal the anger it is important to look beyond anger and search for the primary emotion. Building a trusting therapeutic relationship is very important so you will feel comfortable revealing how you are hurting underneath that angry exterior. Understanding what can trigger you anger is important also. Some education about the brain and how it works is generally helpful in understanding and conquering your anger. I want to show you how you control your emotions. Emotions do not control you!