Great Couples Counseling in Cologne, MN. Therapy to heal relationships.

Long-term relationships naturally go through and ebb-and-flow process as they develop and grow-- and this is not without its bumps and hiccups! Sometimes things feel stagnant or stale, but it doesn't have to remain this way! In therapy I strive to help my client's relationships with rebuilding communication, intimacy (sexual & non-sexual), and connection with a casual therapy style and compassion.

There is nothing as precious as your relaitonhsip. That’s why your relationship deserves Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This is the treatment that years of research shows to be highly effective in helping couples improve their relationship, resolve conflicts, repair trust, and feel safe, loved and connected. EFT helps couples get to the heart of the matter. It is designed to stop the negative and stuck patterns in relationships, transforming them into the love, connection and understanding you desire.

I have had training in several models for couple's work. I mainly use RLT because it moves people fast and the model has a lot of overlap with other models that look at attachment and developmental trauma. Doing trauma work in the presence of your partner help build compassion and empathy, reducing the triggering that typically occurs in relationships. I can help improve communication, co-parenting and infidelity repair.

Dr. McCarthy's approach of "Co–Coaching for Dynamic Growth" challenges many currently accepted beliefs about love/romance and what it takes to have a successful relationship: e.g. “you should just accept your partner and not try to change their behavior.” Rather, the relationship is seen as a dynamic growth process for learning how to become more loving partners through mutual coaching. Each partner seeks to clearly identify his or her own core negative relationship pattern and each helps the other change through mutual, respectful coaching. Couples previously unable to break longstanding recurring patterns learn to revitalize a new relationship of deep love and emotional connection!

We work with couples of all types. Whether you are married, in a committed relationship, or dating, the skills necessary for a satisfying relationship are often the same. The ability to communicate, the ability to connect, the skill of asking for what you want are common areas that can use some strengthening. We help couples work through any issues, misunderstandings, or betrayals. In some cases the issue is deciding to stay together or part ways. We facilitate thoughtful, mature discussions around this important decision. We offer online counseling, delivered to you wherever you are. You can self-register and self-schedule at mnonlinecounseling.com