Great Couples Counseling in Delano, MN. Therapy to heal relationships.

After over 30 years of practice as a marriage counselor, I’m shifting my focus away working with from couples whose relationships are already broken. I’m now focusing on helping couples who are just starting out on their journey to build strong, healthy relationships that will last a lifetime. If you’re looking for a communication coach who can teach you how to talk about difficult topics more easily, and learn what keeps love alive for a lifetime, I can help.

Relationships are ever changing and developing a healthy connection that can withstand the changes is ever evolving. If you or your partner are experiencing times of disconnection, couple's therapy can provide a place to understand the disconnection and learn ways to begin to support, listen and understand each other to develop a strong emotional connection to weather all the changes in life. In my practice I work with individuals who are experience relationship concerns.

When you said "I Do!" on your wedding day you had no idea what was to come, but you wanted to walk that journey with the person across from you. When life starts to change and you are struggling with how to live with your spouse we often need someone with an outside view to help redirect, refocus, and reenergize our relationship. Unless you intentionally pursue the person you are with you will automatically start to drift apart. If you need help reconnecting, finding the intimacy you used to have, or want to deepen your relationship don't hesitate to contact me!

Couples counseling is a specialized area of practice that focuses on past patterns, behavioral dynamics, emotional connection and intimacy/sex within the couple relationship. I have the experience and training in two emperically proven types of treatment designed for couples therapy. I also have training in sex therapy and am working toward my certification as a sex therapist. I also offer discernment therapy for those couples who are unsure of their long term commitment, and contemplating divorce or separation. If you are struggling with communication, intimacy, infidelity or trust, blended family/parenting issues, conflict, lack of connection- don't wait. We can help!

We specialize in working with couples utilizing a research-based clinical approach that provides insight, offers practical tools, leads to healing of past hurts, creates hope for restoration and renewal, and sense of direction for the future. Even the best relationships are work, but we believe that with work, each relationship can have the hope of renewed respect, commitment, love, passion, and intimacy.

How do people with different needs, experiences, and worldviews always get along? They don't. They do the work, learn how to talk about it, compromise, forgive, and repeat because needs continue to change overtime. Whether you're a couple, thrupple, poly, open, or more traditional, when you commit to life alongside someone, things are bound to get complicated. I help you get to a place where you have the skills to maintain a healthy relationship outside the office, whether your goal is to stay together or consciously uncouple.

Conflict in relationships happens for nearly everyone. Communication skills are vital to successful relationships. Our clinicians are excellent at teaching you how to master communication techniques that will not only benefit your relationship but will help you in all areas of your personal and professional life. Make an appointment today to get in and start improving your relationships.

Dr. McCarthy's approach of "Co–Coaching for Dynamic Growth" challenges many currently accepted beliefs about love/romance and what it takes to have a successful relationship: e.g. “you should just accept your partner and not try to change their behavior.” Rather, the relationship is seen as a dynamic growth process for learning how to become more loving partners through mutual coaching. Each partner seeks to clearly identify his or her own core negative relationship pattern and each helps the other change through mutual, respectful coaching. Couples previously unable to break longstanding recurring patterns learn to revitalize a new relationship of deep love and emotional connection!

When love is new, we find ourselves thrilled by our partner. However, both science and experience tell us that infatuation has a limited shelf life. Conflict is a normal, predictable part of learning to be together. In fact, it's an opportunity, pointing exactly to the place where we need to grow. My expertise as a couples counselor helps guide you and your partner so that you can reclaim your friendship and handle conflict in gentle, positive ways. Gaining the tools you need to build a strong relationship, I can help you with issues including raising kids, rekindling interest in sex or romance, negotiating housework or finances or overcoming infidelity, infertility and blending families.

There is nothing as precious as your relaitonhsip. That’s why your relationship deserves Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This is the treatment that years of research shows to be highly effective in helping couples improve their relationship, resolve conflicts, repair trust, and feel safe, loved and connected. EFT helps couples get to the heart of the matter. It is designed to stop the negative and stuck patterns in relationships, transforming them into the love, connection and understanding you desire.

I especially enjoy working with couples. If you are part of a couple, you know how challenging it can be to stay connected and in love. Maybe you're not even sure if it's a good idea to stay together. I'll work with you individually and together to sort out what needs to change in order for you to decide about your commitment to your relationship. You'll learn communication skills and conflict resolution tools to help you have a better relationship.

Many couples find themselves in relationships in which some of the love and affection that once was a given has now turned to coldness and fighting. For years I have worked with couples who are having difficulties, teaching principles of finding peaceful resolution to disagreements. I am fully trained in some of the most effective approaches to bring togetherness and happiness to a relationship. I encourage you to call me to learn more about how I can help you restore the loving feelings you once had in your relationship.