Great Couples Counseling in West New York, NJ. Therapy to heal relationships.

Living life with someone else is not an easy feat. Learn how to address your individual needs as well as address effective or non-effective interactions towards creating a balanced life and meaning together! We address areas of communication, sex, conflict resolution, social identity, religion, and a number of other areas that we usually assume about but do not speak about intentionally during nor before marriage or coupling.

I provide couples counseling that emphasizes that there are two separate individuals contributing to one couples dynamic. Therefore I strive to understand how each member of the couple functions and how this impacts the relationship. The goal is to determine if the couple can learn how to complement one another in a manner that will maximize relationship satisfaction.

Most couples struggle to figure out how to make their relationships work at one time or another. Couples therapy can be an effective means of managing conflicts, deepening intimacy and friendship and making difficult but important decisions in and about your relationship. Each relationship is unique but most can benefit from making improvements in communication, learning more about what each partner needs and from working to most effectively negotiate differences. I have been working towards these goals with couples for over 10 years and would be happy to talk with you about whether I can be helpful to you and your partner.

Maintaining and nourishing a meaningful relationship is far harder than anyone can reasonably predict. You and your partner are both independently formed individuals that "come together to form a more perfect union." But if we don't learn to adapt and respect the needs of our partner how can we grow as a couple? And if we don't honor our individual needs and desires how can we breathe within ourselves? It is this battle of mutual respect for our relationship while honoring the self-respect of our individuality that creates the chasm of a couple's conflict. A healthy and supportive counseling environment can begin the process of regaining the spark that was ignited the first time you met.

As a couples counselor, your relationship is “my client”. My main concern is how you are treating one another right now. What does your communication look like? Where is this relationship headed? It’s important to explore relationship history because it is how you learned to love each other and how you fit into each other’s lives. What is working and what is not? It does not need to define the future of your relationship. When your relationship is strong, it makes your life journey challenges easier to handle with the communication, love, and support you receive from one another.

People can grow apart for many reasons. Sometimes life has become complicated, and you’ve lost sight of each other’s needs. Sometimes there is a breach and a loss of trust and you are not sure how to repair it, or if you even want to. One thing is certain: if two people are willing to work on repairing a marriage that has lost its way, for whatever reason, their relationship already has a foundation to build on. With time and proper counseling, the marriage can often be repaired. I work with committed couples, whether married or not, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, to help both parties clarify what attracted them in the first place, what is not working anymore, and why. Then we work on active listening and clear, simple communication....(view profile to read more)

If you are in a troubled relationship, seeking help is more effective than ignoring your problems or hoping they get better on their own. Whether your goal is to strengthen bonds and gain a better understanding of each other or to resolve under-lying tensions, couples counseling can move your relationship to a happier, more satisfying place. Some of the issues that I address in treatment include: communication problems, sexual difficulties, conflicts with child rearing or blended families, substance abuse, financial problems, anger, infidelity and divorce.

As has been the cry of physicians since the breed was invented: Why do you wait so long to come see me?! Research has shown that couples don't seek help for on average six years after problems emerge, by which time the resentment and problems have become long standing and unwieldy. By then, as any of you who have gone to couples counseling probably know, the therapy feels like too little too late and couples leave discouraged by the size of the problems. Solution: Go sooner! Even the best relationships require tending and attention, so when something is brewing that you can't resolve yourselves, don't let it fester. The sooner you go for a tune-up, the faster (and cheaper) it'll be.

I believe that our love relationships are the most powerful mirror to reflect back to us the condition of our psyches. Love provides us with the courage to face our faults, weaknesses and misapprehensions and creates the impetus to change that which stands in the way of our peace, happiness and personal evolution. In my work with couples, together we view the family systems that form each partner and then we envision and create the new system of the couple relationship. Our work together fosters intimacy, communication, empathy, and most importantly, mutual respect. Whatever the outcome, honesty and love are able to flow in the safety of this environment.

You will learn the complicated dynamics that are occurring in your relationship on several different levels - emotion, behavior, and cognitive. You will each learn what you bring to the relationship as individuals and how that fits with your partner. You will learn communication skills and how to listen to your partner for content and emotion. You will have a safe space to talk about difficult issues. You may find increased intimacy with your partner. Couples counseling is not just for romantic relationships. Business and creative partners can also benefit from couples therapy.

Marriage or couple relationships are a tug of war for power and control. When the leverage of the couple becomes one sided: disappointment, fears, worries and anger become predominant emotions. At this point, you may think about leaving because you can't understand your conflicted feelings. Remember, " You can't run away from yourself". It is essential to know your contribution to the dysfunction in the relationship. When you can face your feelings and behaviors patterns and take responsibility for your actions leaving the "blame" behind, the couple begins the repair process enabling respectful listening and communicating leading to healing feelings and setting the stage for intimacy.

Ed has been practicing psychotherapy for over 30 years. Ed relates well to people and specialize in Co-dependency, 12 Steps, Stress Management, and relaxation. Ed has worked with depression, anxiety and addiction and consider 's himself to use counseling techniques that work. Ed is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, a National Certified Counselor Certified Cognitive Behavioral Counselor, and a member of the American Counselor Association Ed has worked in both Private and Group Practices. Ed employs the use of cognitive and behavioral therapy techniques that work well and specializes his sessions for each client Ed has developed a unique approach to meeting client needs. This approac....

Couples therapy is a means of resolving conflict or communication struggles that couples may not have been able to manage as effectively on their own. This type of treatment involves both partners coming in for treatment and discussing the issues in a way that allows for possible change. The aim is to help couples gain a better understanding of themselves, their partner, and the typical issues that arise to help them make changes that can bring them closer together.